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I am so grateful for all of the many friends, associates and family who continually inspire me.

Today I learned a very powerful lesson;  The level of my ability to recieve is directly proportionate to my ability to give freely.

I use to be the most generous person, I was constantly giving little gifts to people I loved.  When I grandmother passed away I seemed to stop giving.  I remember someone telling me (at least what I heard) that I was giving to get…love, attention, power, you name it.  All of this happened around the same time and so I just stopped.  It was not a consious thought to stop, but I did.  I grew empty, sad, lost.

What I realized today is that giving brought me great JOY and Happiness.  What I stopped was my happiness, my joy.  I was not giving to get from the other person, I was giving to feel the internal Self-Love, the pure unadulterated joy of watching as someone took pleasure in the moment.  I was reveling in there delight because it brought me delight in my heart.  It reminded me of how much I am loved by ME!

As you allow yourself to receive the gift you give to yourself by your generosity, open up to and allow yourself to receive the joy. Tune into your feelings.  What is it you are feeling?  Revel in the joy of the gift to you, Self Love!

Happy Holiday

Lorayne

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Funny how as we go through our day we encounter obstacles to success around corners we did not even know existed. Has this happened to you?  It happens to me when I least expect it.  That is the way of it, if we expected it, it would not be getting in our way, we would be aware.

I am talking about those pesky little subconscious thoughts that creep in at the most inopportune times and sabotage us from moving forward head long into our lives and our success.

Recently I was preparing for a new class I am teaching, “Prosperity & Money”. It is about getting to the cause of what is in the way of peoples prosperity, their healthy relationship with money.  This is an area that so many people are struggling with and I decided that I was going to provide a course that would assist people to finally get to the truth and find out where their money/prosperity programs and beliefs started.  Since my job is to assist my clients in finding out the programs, beliefs and emotions that are getting in the way of their total health, wealth and happiness it did not seem like such a stretch to create this course.  I was going along just fine until I was awakened by that little voice  (the foreign saboteur) that kept saying, WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE?  What do you think you are doing? STOP! What will people think.  You are not qualified.  Maybe none of you have had this voice in your head before and maybe you have and can relate.

This is the very moment when most people are stopped from moving forward. The voice gets the best of them and they believe it to be the truth, and it is for the moment.  Once again it has won and we are put back in our place.  How many times has this happened to you?  Do you stop, give up settle for the familiar inertia?  This is where most people resign themselves to never getting ahead.  As you can see, I know this voice really well, as do you.

This is the critical moment, do I listen to the voice? Or, do I muster all of the courage I can and push forward?  No one would blame me if I sunk back into the wall and continued the status-quo.  After all everyone hears it and they all understand, Right?

Well…what should I do? I could kick myself in the butt and say don’t be an idiot, you have worked too hard and too long to build your reputation, you are respected, you have responsibility.  Oops, what just happened? The voice is using another tactic!  Just another way to sabotage me since the first tact did not seem to work.  Are you starting to get the idea that maybe, just maybe, your perceived lack of success was never yours to begin with?

The foreign saboteur is so subtle, so sneaky, so insidious and it tries every possible way to keep us from moving in the direction of our spirit! So what do we do now?

Let me tell you what I did and do every moment of every day. I stop, take a deep breath and remember right in this moment, and this moment and this moment, I am doing the very best I know how to do.  It may take me a few tries before I can conquer the voice but if I am diligent and remember that it is not me, IT IS NOT ME..,then and only then can I recognize I have won the battle, maybe not the war, but certainly the battle, at least for now. Next time I may let it get the best of me, I have to be OK with that, but the only way it wins is if I give up.  I don’t know about you but I have fought too hard and too long and I am committed to my moving forward.  I am committed to my success and the only person I measure my success to and with is myself.  If I continue to move forward towards my chosen destiny then I will always win.  I will always prevail.

So, what about you, are you finally going to realize the voice in your head that is keeping you from your success is not you? Are you finally going to start being kinder to yourself, gentler and more compassionate?  I would recommend a good healthy dose of self-honoring, self-celebration and self-love.  After all, you chose to be here, to experience all you could and that means success too.  Life is certainly a process and I intend to enjoy the ride!

Here’s to our Success!

Lorayne Ham

In Lighten Wellness

http://www.inlightenwellness.com


As we move out of the darkness of winter and into the light of Spring it is an awakening, we are birthed anew.
Hope returns with the flowers and I see with new eyes the world I live in. It is as if all of the grime has been washed away, I am refreshed.

As we awaken to spring there is another awakening that is happening all around us, a revolution of sorts. People are awakening to see the truth and as they awaken to themselves they awakened to the world around them. Of course we could focus on all that is wrong or that we perceive as wrong around us but that would only bring more of what is wrong about. I prefer to awaken anew to the new day and see it with fresh eyes, eyes of hope, joy and love.

I choose to wake up each day and look out at the masses of humanity and see them not for what has been imposed upon them, but to see the truth underneath, they are love and we are all part of the human family together.

We hear a lot about the new awakening that is happening as if it is just happening, that is only partially true. It requires each of us to consciously choose to awaken to our own truth and then see that truth reflected in the eyes of our fellow humans here on this beautiful planet we call home. it takes each of us to have our own awakening to create the global awakening, to turn the tides away from hate towards LOVE.

Will you choose to awaken and contribute to the Grand Awakening? Will you choose Love over Hate? Will you choose to sit with you in the quiet recesses of your heart and Love YOU?

Lorayne Ham


I have been thinking lately that there are a lot of us that for some reason or other, hold back, relinquish our power and literally hand it over to others.

Now I do not mean that we consciously say “Hey, take my power, make me feel small and insignificant” I mean that out of our beliefs that we have about ourselves and our right to choose, we hold back, make no choice (which by the not doing, is a choice), sit and let others tell us what we should or should not do.

When is it enough?  When things come to the for-front of your mind, that is the time.  That is when you have the ability to choose. To no longer be controlled by the unseen voices that say “you are not good enough, who do you think you are, what right do you have” YOU have every right.  This is your life, not another single person on this planet of 6 billion people is uniquely you.  YOU are the only one that has your gifts, talents or viewpoint that maybe, just maybe is exactly what the planet needs right now.

When you have the conscious awareness that “this is not who I am” That is your que to really stop and take stock of how you are living your life.

So, I ask you, when is it your time to show up in your life and play your game?  When is it your time to grow up and be all that your heart wants you to be? When will you put you first and make time for YOU to discover YOU in a whole new way?  When will you create the life You were always meant to LIVE?

Check out my courses and workshops that facilitate you discovering YOU!  http://www.in-lighten.net

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