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Change is inevitable.  We all know it and yet most of us fear change.  We fear walking into the unknown, the un-discovered and it is because we do not know if we will be safe or not.  It all comes down to safety.  We are so afraid of change that we would rather stay with the uncomfortable, the un-fulfilling, the un-satisfying than face change.  I know people that stay in horribly abusive situation because they are afraid that what ever situation that follows will be worse than the one they are in.  They become numb.  This, to some degree or another, is how most people live their lives.  Sad, I know, but fact.  We would rather become numb to our existence  than change it.

Even when we have someone telling us that we can have a better life if we only…Give up the job, leave the partner or move.  We are so accustomed to our existence and numbness that we can not see beyond our current reality.  So we are in fear about what might come next.  The reason this happens is that it touches us in our very survival and when that happens we go into our fight or flight mechenism and we hunker down.  We will fight anyone or anything that threatens our reality.  We may not want to consciously stay in the bad marriage, partnership, job, town, whatever it is but at least we know what to expect.

So what happens when we finally get beyond the fear and do decide to make the change?  We have mustered up our courage and we take that leap of faith and……. there we are.  Things are always more interesting, scary, exhilarating.  This is the point where we find out what we are made of.  Many people get to this point, they have finally taken a step in the right direction and suddenly something comes along that triggers their fear and they jump back into the old pattern.  Or,. something comes along and they feel fear but they still decide to continue on the new path.  These are the few that dare to live grander, bigger and more adventurous lives.  They have faced themselves and their fear and still, they moved forward.

Does this mean that they will never face fear again, No!  They will probably face fear every day; it is just the way of things.  What will be different is that they know that they will survive.   This is the journey of life, we either grow and learn to face fear and change or we stand still.  I for one choose to face my fears head on every day because that means that I am growing and really, what’s the point of living if we are not growing?  I figure why waste the trip!

Learn to embrace change and take advantage of every opportunity to face yourself in truth.  Move forward knowing that you have lived, really lived!

I invite you to change something everyday, you might just like it!

If you would like to move forward in your life and  embrace change or would like to develop tools and skills to do that…I teach courses, classes and workshops to support you in you journey.  Go to http://www.in-lighten.net

In Light, Lorayne


This month I have been talking about Joy, how Joy shows up in your life.  How are you using Joy to move you out of pain, frustration and sadness? Let’s look at ways you have shared with me the simple ways you have played with JOY.

Rena in Bothell, WA  “I have been struggling with changes in my family.  My father was recently diagnosed with prostate cancer and I have been finding it difficult to feel happy or joy, all I feel is sad. This news is not what we expected.  My mother is having a particularly difficult time.  I heard you on the radio talking about joy and decided to give it a try.  I wanted to feel joy bubbling up inside of me, it took me a while, I really wanted to feel better and change how I was looking at the situation.  After a minute or two of focusing on times in my family when we were all together and happy, I really did feel better.  I am going to get my family talking about the good times and see if that does not help.  Thank you.”

Rena, I know what you are going through, my mother was recently diagnosed with uterine cancer and when I heard the news I felt like I had been kicked in the stomach.
I recently sat with my mother during her recovery from surgery and looked through old photographs of times when both my mother and I were children it was really fun to take that walk down memory lane.  I know that I always say live in the now, but sometimes it is valuable to remember those really happy times so that you can remember the feelings. Taking that walk down memory lane was a very special time and one that I know lifted our spirits.

Karen in Seattle “I was recently laid off from work and this is a scary time.  I have three children and all of us have become accustomed to living on two incomes.  It is really hard to feel joy when everything around me says it is all falling apart.”

Karen, I hear what you are saying and I tell you, this is the most important time to feel joy!  Have you ever heard the statement “What you focus on you get?”  Well it is true, I know many of us have had times when we are really sad or upset or scared, everything around us seems to be falling apart and then it just keeps on snowballing.  So, how do you feel joy in the midst of chaos?  Change your focus, look at what you do have, a healthy family, a loving husband, beautiful things to surround you, friends.  The trick is to focus on what you are grateful for, the more you focus on gratitude the more you will move out of fear and into joy!

Sometimes we are given challenges in life to help us focus on what is really important, the simple joys of being with those you love and sharing a smile, a cup of tea and remembering the love.

The joys in life are most often those simple little unexpected moments when you can let the worries of the day wash off of you and be present in your life.

Let us all allow space for more joy in our lives!


I have been thinking lately that there are a lot of us that for some reason or other, hold back, relinquish our power and literally hand it over to others.

Now I do not mean that we consciously say “Hey, take my power, make me feel small and insignificant” I mean that out of our beliefs that we have about ourselves and our right to choose, we hold back, make no choice (which by the not doing, is a choice), sit and let others tell us what we should or should not do.

When is it enough?  When things come to the for-front of your mind, that is the time.  That is when you have the ability to choose. To no longer be controlled by the unseen voices that say “you are not good enough, who do you think you are, what right do you have” YOU have every right.  This is your life, not another single person on this planet of 6 billion people is uniquely you.  YOU are the only one that has your gifts, talents or viewpoint that maybe, just maybe is exactly what the planet needs right now.

When you have the conscious awareness that “this is not who I am” That is your que to really stop and take stock of how you are living your life.

So, I ask you, when is it your time to show up in your life and play your game?  When is it your time to grow up and be all that your heart wants you to be? When will you put you first and make time for YOU to discover YOU in a whole new way?  When will you create the life You were always meant to LIVE?

Check out my courses and workshops that facilitate you discovering YOU!  http://www.in-lighten.net


Many of us focus on the end results of our life and not on what is happening right now in this moment,  I wondered what it was that kept us focusing on the future with little or no thought or focus on today.  Really, you do not know what the future holds for you and even if you did you would have no control over it anyway.  The only thing you have control over is you in this moment, so why waste the opportunity?  Being a control freak myself, I like to have control or at least the illusion of control, so if I know that right now in this moment I can truly have control over my life, then I say let me at it!  I have control over what I think, what I say, how I feel and what I do about it, What Power, I am giddy with it.  Right now in this moment I choose to live my life to the fullest and really enjoy the control I do have and give up that illusion of control over anything else in my life.  In fact, I no longer want to have control over those things I really never had control over, way too much work.  I choose to enjoy the freedom that comes with letting go.  I choose to live my life to the fullest, in this moment.  I wish you the same!


I love the words, Heart Felt, it means feeling deeply.  My heart felt desire is that we can all feel what is in our hearts all of the time.

To know what you are feeling at any given moment and really feel it.

I have many clients who have a heart felt longing to know who they are and what it is they are here to do.  We are given longing or desire to know, as a means to move us forward.

People are waking up in droves right now and they are all seeking to find what they are meant to do what is in their hearts.

I think we are meant to find ourselves and the truth of who we are, the truth that we are all one, that we are all spirit experiencing the subtle and not so subtle nuances that life has to offer, to revel, to rejoice, to wallow, to celebrate, to cry, to really experience every moment to their depths.  Once we have done that we can come from choice and decide if that felt good and if we want to do more of it.  If not, make the choice to see if from a different perspective and rise above it, make the choice to not react to it, to not do it again, not give it power.

Be that master of your life and celebrate you in it.  Come from your heart. Be the joy or not… it has always been your choice!


Ever wonder why some people seem to just breeze through life with seeing not a care in the world, why some people have all the luck?
Well…. I can tell you it is all a matter of perspective.

What you see as a limitation, block barrier to you having your good, does not even exist in their world.  The energy they are projecting out into the world is “I deserve all the best that life has to offer” and that is exactly what they get.  They do not even understand why some people do not get what they want because their perspective says “I deserve”.
Due to genetics, patterning, self talk… all of the things that are running around in our thoughts and beliefs that tell us we do not deserve are the very things that we need to remove so that we can say “I deserve” and mean it.

This is the work I do every day with my clients because we all DESERVE.

The fact that so many people are running around with the confusion of how to move beyond these patterns is exactly why I created “SHIFT”

“SHIFT” is a 6 week course that really helps the attendees look at what it is they want and exactly what is getting in the way of achieving it in their lives.

Currently I have two new courses starting May 13th at 6:30 pm and May 17th at 9:30 am.

Check out my website at http://www.in-lighten.net for more information.

I hope you have a  positivity day!


I believe that we all have it in us to break through the barriers of our past and move into our future with joy.  Discovering what holds us back is the key to moving into our future.  The EIP process is very effective at unlocking the blocks and patterns and unhooking us from predetermined behavior.

I have been working with this process myself and with my clients for over a year now and am finding some amazing results.  Moving past those behaviors that you keep repeating. Those patterns that you keep repeating even when you no longer want to.  WE have always been made to feel taht we have to suck it up and just stop.  Many of us have found that so much easier said than done.  With the EIP process you can move through those programs to the other side and begin to see a future filled with joy!

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