I am so grateful for all of the many friends, associates and family who continually inspire me.

Today I learned a very powerful lesson;  The level of my ability to recieve is directly proportionate to my ability to give freely.

I use to be the most generous person, I was constantly giving little gifts to people I loved.  When I grandmother passed away I seemed to stop giving.  I remember someone telling me (at least what I heard) that I was giving to get…love, attention, power, you name it.  All of this happened around the same time and so I just stopped.  It was not a consious thought to stop, but I did.  I grew empty, sad, lost.

What I realized today is that giving brought me great JOY and Happiness.  What I stopped was my happiness, my joy.  I was not giving to get from the other person, I was giving to feel the internal Self-Love, the pure unadulterated joy of watching as someone took pleasure in the moment.  I was reveling in there delight because it brought me delight in my heart.  It reminded me of how much I am loved by ME!

As you allow yourself to receive the gift you give to yourself by your generosity, open up to and allow yourself to receive the joy. Tune into your feelings.  What is it you are feeling?  Revel in the joy of the gift to you, Self Love!

Happy Holiday

Lorayne

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We’ve all heard it, are you living or dying?  It is pretty simple if you think about it once we are born we grow up and we reach about 18 years of age and then something remarkable happens… instead of growing  we begin to start to expire.  We may not feel it right away but slowly over time we start to show signs of aging and wear on our physical bodies and most especially emotionally and spiritually.  We become shut down and over time our dreams start to age, our enthusiasm, our Joy, our passion starts to fade… Then what?

Well most of us forget that we once had big, humongous Dreams, giant almost inconceivable Dreams.  It is the moment that our dreams slip, our passion fades that we begin to die, that we begin to expire!  I remember when I was about 8 I wanted to grow up and marry an airline pilot and have twin daughters, blond of course.  It was a silly little dream because I have black hair and twins do not run in my family but I did not know any better and anything was possible in my world.  If someone had told me right then and there that my dream was impossible I may have never dreamed again.  This happens to most of us, someone tells us that we can’t possibly want or have our dreams, they are ridiculous, impossible, preposterous and before you know it we are dying again.

Are you seeing a themes here?  Without our Dreams, what is the point?  I for one have always had really big whopper dreams, dreams that reached the sky and beyond.  Most of my dreams have never come true but I believe with all of my being that it is possible because I just keep dreaming bigger and bigger dreams.  As I shift and change my dreams shift and change right along with me.  I spend a lot of time day-dreaming, imagining and pondering what it is I wish to create in my life and then set about visualizing what I want appearing in my life.

I for one refuse to give up dreaming and consequently I think I will never age!  I am forever young!  I am a DREAMER!  I intend to enjoy my life and live it up every chance I get… Want to join me?

Dreamers Unite!


I have been pondering the idea of time lately, it is ever moving and yet there are moments where it seems to stand still.  Why is it that when you are younger it never seems to move fast enough and when you get older it never seems to slow down?  These are the things I find myself pondering in the recesses of my mind.

I was thinking this morning about the “Lazy Days of Summer”  you know, those days where time slows down and we all get to relax, sit back and enjoy life…. STOP EVERYTHING….what happened to those days?  I really want to know.

I think what might have happen to those wonderful times, is that we forgot to relax, just sit back and watch as life ticked by.  When did we get so wrapped up in being busy, going here and there, getting this and that?  As I was pondering what happened to those wonderful times it occurred to me that maybe, just maybe I could bring them back into my life.

So, how do we unplug?  How do we stop the constant thrust forward and just breathe?  B-R-E-A-T-H-E!  I have decided to experiment with this and allow that warmth of the sun to seep into my pores and feel what it is like to stop and relax, enjoy and experience the moments as time just moves by.

I am not sure how I got to the point of the ever moving, doing, accomplishing, task oriented, do…do..doing of life….Argh!  How did we all get there?  I think we have forgotten how important it is to enjoy our lives, the wonderful moments  where nothing of any real significance is happening but that moment is the most important thing ever!  If we can just sit with ourselves and BE.  No TV, Radio, Computer, Car or Job….just that delicious moment…and the next …and the next moment.

I think maybe we have become addicted to the speed, the rush, the ever moving, changing excitement.  I’ll bet that if you allowed yourself the moment to experiencve how each feel, the rush and the peace, you would at first want the rush..it is familiar,  comfortably uncomfortable. But, if you can allow yourself the experience of the peaceful moment, allow yourself the time to let it seep into your very soul, you would not want to let it go.  there is a profound rest in those moments that I long to return to.

I invite you to give yourself the gift of the moment, allow yourself to experience the magic!

Moment by moment,     Lorayne


I just sent in my video for the ‘Your Own Show” on Oprah’s network, what an adventure and growth experience it was.  You know me, I am all about growth opportunities, pushing myself beyond my comfort zone.  I want to take every advantage the universe provides for my growth experience, I say “why waste the trip”!

So I purchased a Kodak Zi8 camera, got my tripod ready, sat down and I was off…  Ok so there is not much memory in the camera and the card that came with it had to be mailed.  So… I had to wait a day or so before I could film.  I purchased a little Kodak desktop trip, not so great, broke right at the start.  So I had my large tripod, it’s for a medium format camera, a little over sized but worked just great.

Card arrives, inserted in the camera and again I am ready to shoot.  I shot in the bedroom, I shot in the office, I shot in my client room, in the living room, you name it I shot there (OK, I drew the line at the bathroom).  it was all about lighting and the perfect background, after all this was Oprah and I was auditioning for my “OWN” show.

What I learned;  I am not a producer or a director.. I gave up looking for video perfection and decided that I was enough, me just as I am…after all that is what they are going to get if I get on the show so might as well give it to them right out the gate.

If you had asked me a year ago to submit a video for a show, a reality show no less, I would have said you were nuts, I did not have the self confidence to do something like that and what if I actually got on, I would have to be on TV!  I got a wonderful opportunity to see how far i have come and that the self work I have been doing has really paid off.  The really amazing thing is that I have no attachment to however this turns out.  Obviously I would not have sent in my video if I did not truly want to be on the show but I also am OK with what ever turn up.  The most important thing I did was showed up and played the game, beyond that…it is gravy!  I did not talk myself out of it, tell myself I was not good enough, let that little voice in my head sabotage my fun, That was the greatest gift.  The realization that I can have fun in life, play the game but not get caught in the game along the way.  What an amazing realization!  I have finally moved out of the crab pot and have become an observer in my own life.  What a cool thing….NOW THE REAL FUN BEGINS!

If you would like to see my audition check this out….. http://myown.oprah.com/audition/index.html?request=video_details&response_id=11888&promo_id=1

If you would like to learn how to become the observer in your own life.. I Can Help.

www.inlightenwellness.com

Lorayne Ham


I am often asked, “What is it you do?”  I am always struck by that question.  It should be simple, after all I talk about my work all of the time.   I am a certified Kalos Health Facilitator and what that means is that I assist people in “getting to the cause” of dis-ease (lack of ease) in their Body/Mind.  Sounds simple doesn’t it?  Interestingly most people do not know what I mean. Interesting but not surprising.  You see most people go to a healthcare provider and that provider looks at them as a statistic.  They come in with a symptom and the provider looks at them and based on the majority of people that present with that symptom they treat them according to the majority.  This is what we have become accustomed to so we do not see anything wrong with it.  Well I do!

What if we went to our Health care facilitator and they said to us “I need to get an overall view of the current state of your body, I am going to do a non-invasive check up using muscle testing and trigger point testing, using your body’s meridian system to identify the deficiencies or weaknesses in your body”.  Right away you know they are working with your body, you are not a statistic.  Next they let you know that based on what you have presented and your original concern, your body is communicating to you that it is not in balance.  It does not stop there, the facilitator then asks your body, again using muscle testing, to communicate what it’s first priority is to correct the imbalance.  Sounds good so far, right?  Are you getting the idea that this is different?

Based on the body’s priority’s in healing the facilitator follows and corrects each priority as it arises.  In this way the client and their body are in control of what is needed for optimal health at all times.  Our bodies are so intelligent and they know what they need to be well, they simply need a facilitator that can communicate what is needed.  A facilitator that has the intent to “get to the cause” in the most efficient, effective manner possible.

I work with clients who come in with all sorts of concerns, issues and complaints.  No issue, concern or complaint is too small or too large and none is more important than another. You see the issue, concern and complaint are connected to an individual who is looking for assistance, they each have an underlying cause and that means, as a facilitator, I want to assist my clients in getting to that cause and correcting it.  I work to correct, shift, move and clear the imbalance in the Body/Mind.  When the cause is identified I assist my client in immeasurable ways by moving them closer to balance and wellness.

Most of my clients have been to several providers before coming to see me.  They have been treating the symptom and not the client as an individual.  You see once the cause is addressed and dealt with the problem no longer exists. This is true healing!

As you can see my answer to the question “What do you do?” is not a simple or short one.  My work is so complex, yet simple, and so far reaching that to casually say, “ I help people get well by getting to the cause” although good, does not speak to the profound healing that is possible with what I do.

There are a few Kalos Health Facilitators in the US and Canada but we need more.  I see this as the way we need to be healing now and in the future and that means we need more facilitators.  I am currently working on developing an educational center to train Kalos Health facilitators and lay people so that we can begin to heal on a greater level.  The education center will be located in the greater Seattle area and I hope to provide continued training for those wanting to become certified.

Currently I am offering Kalos courses in Shoreline, WA and I hold a monthly group to support those who are currently taking courses.  For information on upcoming courses and workshops please visit my website at www.inlightenwellness.com.

I also work with individuals looking to heal on all levels at my office in Shoreline, WA.

If you have any questions, suggestions or comments, I welcome your ideas.

In Lighten Wellness

Lorayne Ham


Funny how as we go through our day we encounter obstacles to success around corners we did not even know existed. Has this happened to you?  It happens to me when I least expect it.  That is the way of it, if we expected it, it would not be getting in our way, we would be aware.

I am talking about those pesky little subconscious thoughts that creep in at the most inopportune times and sabotage us from moving forward head long into our lives and our success.

Recently I was preparing for a new class I am teaching, “Prosperity & Money”. It is about getting to the cause of what is in the way of peoples prosperity, their healthy relationship with money.  This is an area that so many people are struggling with and I decided that I was going to provide a course that would assist people to finally get to the truth and find out where their money/prosperity programs and beliefs started.  Since my job is to assist my clients in finding out the programs, beliefs and emotions that are getting in the way of their total health, wealth and happiness it did not seem like such a stretch to create this course.  I was going along just fine until I was awakened by that little voice  (the foreign saboteur) that kept saying, WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE?  What do you think you are doing? STOP! What will people think.  You are not qualified.  Maybe none of you have had this voice in your head before and maybe you have and can relate.

This is the very moment when most people are stopped from moving forward. The voice gets the best of them and they believe it to be the truth, and it is for the moment.  Once again it has won and we are put back in our place.  How many times has this happened to you?  Do you stop, give up settle for the familiar inertia?  This is where most people resign themselves to never getting ahead.  As you can see, I know this voice really well, as do you.

This is the critical moment, do I listen to the voice? Or, do I muster all of the courage I can and push forward?  No one would blame me if I sunk back into the wall and continued the status-quo.  After all everyone hears it and they all understand, Right?

Well…what should I do? I could kick myself in the butt and say don’t be an idiot, you have worked too hard and too long to build your reputation, you are respected, you have responsibility.  Oops, what just happened? The voice is using another tactic!  Just another way to sabotage me since the first tact did not seem to work.  Are you starting to get the idea that maybe, just maybe, your perceived lack of success was never yours to begin with?

The foreign saboteur is so subtle, so sneaky, so insidious and it tries every possible way to keep us from moving in the direction of our spirit! So what do we do now?

Let me tell you what I did and do every moment of every day. I stop, take a deep breath and remember right in this moment, and this moment and this moment, I am doing the very best I know how to do.  It may take me a few tries before I can conquer the voice but if I am diligent and remember that it is not me, IT IS NOT ME..,then and only then can I recognize I have won the battle, maybe not the war, but certainly the battle, at least for now. Next time I may let it get the best of me, I have to be OK with that, but the only way it wins is if I give up.  I don’t know about you but I have fought too hard and too long and I am committed to my moving forward.  I am committed to my success and the only person I measure my success to and with is myself.  If I continue to move forward towards my chosen destiny then I will always win.  I will always prevail.

So, what about you, are you finally going to realize the voice in your head that is keeping you from your success is not you? Are you finally going to start being kinder to yourself, gentler and more compassionate?  I would recommend a good healthy dose of self-honoring, self-celebration and self-love.  After all, you chose to be here, to experience all you could and that means success too.  Life is certainly a process and I intend to enjoy the ride!

Here’s to our Success!

Lorayne Ham

In Lighten Wellness

http://www.inlightenwellness.com


This month I will be participating in my second Kalos course on April 16-18 in the Seattle area.  The first time I was the student and now I am learning to assist and teach this wonderful healing system to others. You can find out more about Kalos and the upcoming course at www.inlightenwellness.com.

I have noticed that many times in my life I have stepped forward to teach what I was also in the process of learning. This may sound counter to what most people expect of their teachers, we want them to be perfect, to know everything there is to know about whatever subject we are teaching. There is nothing wrong with wanting your teacher to be proficient in the subject they are teaching, I want the same.

However, I have noticed that when the teacher is also engaged in learning there is something magical that occurs. When the teacher is flowing with the energy of the students and the subject they are in tune with the moment, they are open to newness and magic.

Have you ever taken a course from a teacher that was so bored with their own subject that they almost fell asleep along with the students? I have and I am here to tell you there was nothing magical in the words that were spoken or the subject being taught. I went in with great expectations of learning and left empty.

When the teacher is willing to also be the student of their class then they are open to new experiences, new insights and new possibilities. This is the kind of teaching and learning that I prefer and quite frankly, it is the way I teach all of the courses I teach. I want to learn from my students as they learn from me, there is a synergy that happens and I find the students learn more and with greater enthusiasm.

As I learn from my students my subject gains depth and heart, I am no longer teaching a subject but I am teaching an art, I am engaged in the exploration of both the information and the experience of teaching and learning at the same time.

Maybe it is in the  minor imperfections of the teacher and in their willingness to step forward in teaching that great teachers are born.

If you are interested in classes and courses I teach or am assisting in as I continue to learn, visit my website at www.inlightenwellness.com or call me at 206-406-7158. I teach Reiki 1&2, Adv. and Mastery, Energetic Healing and soon will be teaching Kalos.   It is both my joy and my pleasure to teach and learn with you.

In service,

Lorayne


As we move out of the darkness of winter and into the light of Spring it is an awakening, we are birthed anew.
Hope returns with the flowers and I see with new eyes the world I live in. It is as if all of the grime has been washed away, I am refreshed.

As we awaken to spring there is another awakening that is happening all around us, a revolution of sorts. People are awakening to see the truth and as they awaken to themselves they awakened to the world around them. Of course we could focus on all that is wrong or that we perceive as wrong around us but that would only bring more of what is wrong about. I prefer to awaken anew to the new day and see it with fresh eyes, eyes of hope, joy and love.

I choose to wake up each day and look out at the masses of humanity and see them not for what has been imposed upon them, but to see the truth underneath, they are love and we are all part of the human family together.

We hear a lot about the new awakening that is happening as if it is just happening, that is only partially true. It requires each of us to consciously choose to awaken to our own truth and then see that truth reflected in the eyes of our fellow humans here on this beautiful planet we call home. it takes each of us to have our own awakening to create the global awakening, to turn the tides away from hate towards LOVE.

Will you choose to awaken and contribute to the Grand Awakening? Will you choose Love over Hate? Will you choose to sit with you in the quiet recesses of your heart and Love YOU?

Lorayne Ham


Happiness is a state of mind.  We hear this all of the time.  Well, what if you do not know what makes you happy or what is keeping you from your happiness?  I am certain that if I knew what was making me unhappy that I would at least be curious and try to figure it out.   Of course, everyone wants to be happy.  Wouldn’t you?  After all none of us wants to be unhappy.  Those people that say it is a state of mind are either out of their minds or maybe, just maybe they know something that we don’t.

What if it were as simple as finding out the under lying belief system that is blocking us from knowing our own path to happiness.  It is as if someone long ago said “You can only be this happy and no more”  It is like a set point on happiness.  What if you could change that “set point” and choose how and what level of happiness you were going to have.

I am big on choice and I know that there is a simple and easy way for you to be happy in this moment.  There is a technique that helps you to discover the decision you made long ago that is getting in the way, that belief that is holding you back from living your life full of joy and happiness.  A decision made in a fraction of a second, with limited knowledge, limited information and limited comprehension.  A decision made when you were small and did not have the tools to comprehend the ramifications of your decision and how long it would be effecting your life.

The technique is called Kalos Health Facilitation.  A Kalos Helath Facilitator can take you back to the time of the decision and help you to see what happened, who was involved and what you decided in the moment to be the truth.  “The Truth Shall Set You FREE”  is an accurate statement and one that I see confirmed over and over again in my practice.  Clients are transformed and are living lives free from the limits of their past.  Free to choose a new reality and live each day knowing they are capable of real Happiness in their lives.

Isn’t it time for you to discover your true happiness?  When you are ready, I am here to help you to do just that.

www.inlightenwellness.com

Light

Lorayne Ham


What do I mean?  I mean that your life, health, attitude and flow of your life are all about you.  After all we are all the center of our own little universe and we can only really see from our own point of view.  This gives us a unique perspective on what we really need to make us feel happy, safe and well.  This is exactly the idea behind the Kalos Transformative process.  With the assistance of a Kalos Health Facilitator you can get feedback from your body to know exactly what it needs, wants and desires right NOW!  Haven’t we all wanted to have the operating manual to our bodies and know what to do when something goes wrong?  With Kalos you can have the ability to troubleshoot and repair anything that has or will go wrong in your body.

Now, no two bodies are alike so each persons operating manual is a little different based on a lifetime of different experiences.  Kalso individualizes your health and wellness care and give you the power and the education to assist your body in doing what it was designed to do, HEAL ITSELF!

Why it is that most other Health and Wellness options assume that your body is broken and will be hard to fix?  It is like going to the auto mechanic and having them say “it is a lost cause and you might as well get rid of it or use duct tap to hold it together until it just falls apart”.  I do not know about you but that is no solution to long-term maintenance.  What I do know is that the body can repair itself no matter how far into disrepair it may be, even if it has been brought to the brink of no longer functioning.  The Body is intelligent it does know what it needs and sometimes (possibly most of the time) it needs us  to simply get out of it’s way!

Eighty percent of all disease has an emotional component.  What this means is that taking a pill or cutting something out does not fix the underlying cause of the disease.  Until the underlying cause is addressed your body will continue to be in disrepair.

That is where the Kalos Health Facilitator comes into play, they can assist your body’s communication with you, along with providing education, so that you know what your body needs to heal and repair itself.  If that means doing a little emotional excavation, the Kalso Health Facilitator can assist with that too.  They help you to understand what decisions were made that lead down the road to disrepair.  What power it is to know that you can get wholistic wellness care and know, without a doubt, what is needed to get back to wellness and stay well forever.  I Love that idea!

If you are like me and you want to know what your body needs to get and maintain health and wellness, I suggest you locate a Kalos Health Facilitator right away and start feeling empowered right NOW!

As always I am here to assist you with your total wellness care.

Lorayne Ham

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