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I am so grateful for all of the many friends, associates and family who continually inspire me.

Today I learned a very powerful lesson;  The level of my ability to recieve is directly proportionate to my ability to give freely.

I use to be the most generous person, I was constantly giving little gifts to people I loved.  When I grandmother passed away I seemed to stop giving.  I remember someone telling me (at least what I heard) that I was giving to get…love, attention, power, you name it.  All of this happened around the same time and so I just stopped.  It was not a consious thought to stop, but I did.  I grew empty, sad, lost.

What I realized today is that giving brought me great JOY and Happiness.  What I stopped was my happiness, my joy.  I was not giving to get from the other person, I was giving to feel the internal Self-Love, the pure unadulterated joy of watching as someone took pleasure in the moment.  I was reveling in there delight because it brought me delight in my heart.  It reminded me of how much I am loved by ME!

As you allow yourself to receive the gift you give to yourself by your generosity, open up to and allow yourself to receive the joy. Tune into your feelings.  What is it you are feeling?  Revel in the joy of the gift to you, Self Love!

Happy Holiday

Lorayne


We’ve all heard it, are you living or dying?  It is pretty simple if you think about it once we are born we grow up and we reach about 18 years of age and then something remarkable happens… instead of growing  we begin to start to expire.  We may not feel it right away but slowly over time we start to show signs of aging and wear on our physical bodies and most especially emotionally and spiritually.  We become shut down and over time our dreams start to age, our enthusiasm, our Joy, our passion starts to fade… Then what?

Well most of us forget that we once had big, humongous Dreams, giant almost inconceivable Dreams.  It is the moment that our dreams slip, our passion fades that we begin to die, that we begin to expire!  I remember when I was about 8 I wanted to grow up and marry an airline pilot and have twin daughters, blond of course.  It was a silly little dream because I have black hair and twins do not run in my family but I did not know any better and anything was possible in my world.  If someone had told me right then and there that my dream was impossible I may have never dreamed again.  This happens to most of us, someone tells us that we can’t possibly want or have our dreams, they are ridiculous, impossible, preposterous and before you know it we are dying again.

Are you seeing a themes here?  Without our Dreams, what is the point?  I for one have always had really big whopper dreams, dreams that reached the sky and beyond.  Most of my dreams have never come true but I believe with all of my being that it is possible because I just keep dreaming bigger and bigger dreams.  As I shift and change my dreams shift and change right along with me.  I spend a lot of time day-dreaming, imagining and pondering what it is I wish to create in my life and then set about visualizing what I want appearing in my life.

I for one refuse to give up dreaming and consequently I think I will never age!  I am forever young!  I am a DREAMER!  I intend to enjoy my life and live it up every chance I get… Want to join me?

Dreamers Unite!


I have been pondering the idea of time lately, it is ever moving and yet there are moments where it seems to stand still.  Why is it that when you are younger it never seems to move fast enough and when you get older it never seems to slow down?  These are the things I find myself pondering in the recesses of my mind.

I was thinking this morning about the “Lazy Days of Summer”  you know, those days where time slows down and we all get to relax, sit back and enjoy life…. STOP EVERYTHING….what happened to those days?  I really want to know.

I think what might have happen to those wonderful times, is that we forgot to relax, just sit back and watch as life ticked by.  When did we get so wrapped up in being busy, going here and there, getting this and that?  As I was pondering what happened to those wonderful times it occurred to me that maybe, just maybe I could bring them back into my life.

So, how do we unplug?  How do we stop the constant thrust forward and just breathe?  B-R-E-A-T-H-E!  I have decided to experiment with this and allow that warmth of the sun to seep into my pores and feel what it is like to stop and relax, enjoy and experience the moments as time just moves by.

I am not sure how I got to the point of the ever moving, doing, accomplishing, task oriented, do…do..doing of life….Argh!  How did we all get there?  I think we have forgotten how important it is to enjoy our lives, the wonderful moments  where nothing of any real significance is happening but that moment is the most important thing ever!  If we can just sit with ourselves and BE.  No TV, Radio, Computer, Car or Job….just that delicious moment…and the next …and the next moment.

I think maybe we have become addicted to the speed, the rush, the ever moving, changing excitement.  I’ll bet that if you allowed yourself the moment to experiencve how each feel, the rush and the peace, you would at first want the rush..it is familiar,  comfortably uncomfortable. But, if you can allow yourself the experience of the peaceful moment, allow yourself the time to let it seep into your very soul, you would not want to let it go.  there is a profound rest in those moments that I long to return to.

I invite you to give yourself the gift of the moment, allow yourself to experience the magic!

Moment by moment,     Lorayne


I just sent in my video for the ‘Your Own Show” on Oprah’s network, what an adventure and growth experience it was.  You know me, I am all about growth opportunities, pushing myself beyond my comfort zone.  I want to take every advantage the universe provides for my growth experience, I say “why waste the trip”!

So I purchased a Kodak Zi8 camera, got my tripod ready, sat down and I was off…  Ok so there is not much memory in the camera and the card that came with it had to be mailed.  So… I had to wait a day or so before I could film.  I purchased a little Kodak desktop trip, not so great, broke right at the start.  So I had my large tripod, it’s for a medium format camera, a little over sized but worked just great.

Card arrives, inserted in the camera and again I am ready to shoot.  I shot in the bedroom, I shot in the office, I shot in my client room, in the living room, you name it I shot there (OK, I drew the line at the bathroom).  it was all about lighting and the perfect background, after all this was Oprah and I was auditioning for my “OWN” show.

What I learned;  I am not a producer or a director.. I gave up looking for video perfection and decided that I was enough, me just as I am…after all that is what they are going to get if I get on the show so might as well give it to them right out the gate.

If you had asked me a year ago to submit a video for a show, a reality show no less, I would have said you were nuts, I did not have the self confidence to do something like that and what if I actually got on, I would have to be on TV!  I got a wonderful opportunity to see how far i have come and that the self work I have been doing has really paid off.  The really amazing thing is that I have no attachment to however this turns out.  Obviously I would not have sent in my video if I did not truly want to be on the show but I also am OK with what ever turn up.  The most important thing I did was showed up and played the game, beyond that…it is gravy!  I did not talk myself out of it, tell myself I was not good enough, let that little voice in my head sabotage my fun, That was the greatest gift.  The realization that I can have fun in life, play the game but not get caught in the game along the way.  What an amazing realization!  I have finally moved out of the crab pot and have become an observer in my own life.  What a cool thing….NOW THE REAL FUN BEGINS!

If you would like to see my audition check this out….. http://myown.oprah.com/audition/index.html?request=video_details&response_id=11888&promo_id=1

If you would like to learn how to become the observer in your own life.. I Can Help.

www.inlightenwellness.com

Lorayne Ham


Funny how as we go through our day we encounter obstacles to success around corners we did not even know existed. Has this happened to you?  It happens to me when I least expect it.  That is the way of it, if we expected it, it would not be getting in our way, we would be aware.

I am talking about those pesky little subconscious thoughts that creep in at the most inopportune times and sabotage us from moving forward head long into our lives and our success.

Recently I was preparing for a new class I am teaching, “Prosperity & Money”. It is about getting to the cause of what is in the way of peoples prosperity, their healthy relationship with money.  This is an area that so many people are struggling with and I decided that I was going to provide a course that would assist people to finally get to the truth and find out where their money/prosperity programs and beliefs started.  Since my job is to assist my clients in finding out the programs, beliefs and emotions that are getting in the way of their total health, wealth and happiness it did not seem like such a stretch to create this course.  I was going along just fine until I was awakened by that little voice  (the foreign saboteur) that kept saying, WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE?  What do you think you are doing? STOP! What will people think.  You are not qualified.  Maybe none of you have had this voice in your head before and maybe you have and can relate.

This is the very moment when most people are stopped from moving forward. The voice gets the best of them and they believe it to be the truth, and it is for the moment.  Once again it has won and we are put back in our place.  How many times has this happened to you?  Do you stop, give up settle for the familiar inertia?  This is where most people resign themselves to never getting ahead.  As you can see, I know this voice really well, as do you.

This is the critical moment, do I listen to the voice? Or, do I muster all of the courage I can and push forward?  No one would blame me if I sunk back into the wall and continued the status-quo.  After all everyone hears it and they all understand, Right?

Well…what should I do? I could kick myself in the butt and say don’t be an idiot, you have worked too hard and too long to build your reputation, you are respected, you have responsibility.  Oops, what just happened? The voice is using another tactic!  Just another way to sabotage me since the first tact did not seem to work.  Are you starting to get the idea that maybe, just maybe, your perceived lack of success was never yours to begin with?

The foreign saboteur is so subtle, so sneaky, so insidious and it tries every possible way to keep us from moving in the direction of our spirit! So what do we do now?

Let me tell you what I did and do every moment of every day. I stop, take a deep breath and remember right in this moment, and this moment and this moment, I am doing the very best I know how to do.  It may take me a few tries before I can conquer the voice but if I am diligent and remember that it is not me, IT IS NOT ME..,then and only then can I recognize I have won the battle, maybe not the war, but certainly the battle, at least for now. Next time I may let it get the best of me, I have to be OK with that, but the only way it wins is if I give up.  I don’t know about you but I have fought too hard and too long and I am committed to my moving forward.  I am committed to my success and the only person I measure my success to and with is myself.  If I continue to move forward towards my chosen destiny then I will always win.  I will always prevail.

So, what about you, are you finally going to realize the voice in your head that is keeping you from your success is not you? Are you finally going to start being kinder to yourself, gentler and more compassionate?  I would recommend a good healthy dose of self-honoring, self-celebration and self-love.  After all, you chose to be here, to experience all you could and that means success too.  Life is certainly a process and I intend to enjoy the ride!

Here’s to our Success!

Lorayne Ham

In Lighten Wellness

http://www.inlightenwellness.com


This month I will be participating in my second Kalos course on April 16-18 in the Seattle area.  The first time I was the student and now I am learning to assist and teach this wonderful healing system to others. You can find out more about Kalos and the upcoming course at www.inlightenwellness.com.

I have noticed that many times in my life I have stepped forward to teach what I was also in the process of learning. This may sound counter to what most people expect of their teachers, we want them to be perfect, to know everything there is to know about whatever subject we are teaching. There is nothing wrong with wanting your teacher to be proficient in the subject they are teaching, I want the same.

However, I have noticed that when the teacher is also engaged in learning there is something magical that occurs. When the teacher is flowing with the energy of the students and the subject they are in tune with the moment, they are open to newness and magic.

Have you ever taken a course from a teacher that was so bored with their own subject that they almost fell asleep along with the students? I have and I am here to tell you there was nothing magical in the words that were spoken or the subject being taught. I went in with great expectations of learning and left empty.

When the teacher is willing to also be the student of their class then they are open to new experiences, new insights and new possibilities. This is the kind of teaching and learning that I prefer and quite frankly, it is the way I teach all of the courses I teach. I want to learn from my students as they learn from me, there is a synergy that happens and I find the students learn more and with greater enthusiasm.

As I learn from my students my subject gains depth and heart, I am no longer teaching a subject but I am teaching an art, I am engaged in the exploration of both the information and the experience of teaching and learning at the same time.

Maybe it is in the  minor imperfections of the teacher and in their willingness to step forward in teaching that great teachers are born.

If you are interested in classes and courses I teach or am assisting in as I continue to learn, visit my website at www.inlightenwellness.com or call me at 206-406-7158. I teach Reiki 1&2, Adv. and Mastery, Energetic Healing and soon will be teaching Kalos.   It is both my joy and my pleasure to teach and learn with you.

In service,

Lorayne


As we move out of the darkness of winter and into the light of Spring it is an awakening, we are birthed anew.
Hope returns with the flowers and I see with new eyes the world I live in. It is as if all of the grime has been washed away, I am refreshed.

As we awaken to spring there is another awakening that is happening all around us, a revolution of sorts. People are awakening to see the truth and as they awaken to themselves they awakened to the world around them. Of course we could focus on all that is wrong or that we perceive as wrong around us but that would only bring more of what is wrong about. I prefer to awaken anew to the new day and see it with fresh eyes, eyes of hope, joy and love.

I choose to wake up each day and look out at the masses of humanity and see them not for what has been imposed upon them, but to see the truth underneath, they are love and we are all part of the human family together.

We hear a lot about the new awakening that is happening as if it is just happening, that is only partially true. It requires each of us to consciously choose to awaken to our own truth and then see that truth reflected in the eyes of our fellow humans here on this beautiful planet we call home. it takes each of us to have our own awakening to create the global awakening, to turn the tides away from hate towards LOVE.

Will you choose to awaken and contribute to the Grand Awakening? Will you choose Love over Hate? Will you choose to sit with you in the quiet recesses of your heart and Love YOU?

Lorayne Ham


Happiness is a state of mind.  We hear this all of the time.  Well, what if you do not know what makes you happy or what is keeping you from your happiness?  I am certain that if I knew what was making me unhappy that I would at least be curious and try to figure it out.   Of course, everyone wants to be happy.  Wouldn’t you?  After all none of us wants to be unhappy.  Those people that say it is a state of mind are either out of their minds or maybe, just maybe they know something that we don’t.

What if it were as simple as finding out the under lying belief system that is blocking us from knowing our own path to happiness.  It is as if someone long ago said “You can only be this happy and no more”  It is like a set point on happiness.  What if you could change that “set point” and choose how and what level of happiness you were going to have.

I am big on choice and I know that there is a simple and easy way for you to be happy in this moment.  There is a technique that helps you to discover the decision you made long ago that is getting in the way, that belief that is holding you back from living your life full of joy and happiness.  A decision made in a fraction of a second, with limited knowledge, limited information and limited comprehension.  A decision made when you were small and did not have the tools to comprehend the ramifications of your decision and how long it would be effecting your life.

The technique is called Kalos Health Facilitation.  A Kalos Helath Facilitator can take you back to the time of the decision and help you to see what happened, who was involved and what you decided in the moment to be the truth.  “The Truth Shall Set You FREE”  is an accurate statement and one that I see confirmed over and over again in my practice.  Clients are transformed and are living lives free from the limits of their past.  Free to choose a new reality and live each day knowing they are capable of real Happiness in their lives.

Isn’t it time for you to discover your true happiness?  When you are ready, I am here to help you to do just that.

www.inlightenwellness.com

Light

Lorayne Ham


Life is all about Change and just as the seasons change we change too.

Change is inevitable and if we fight it life is hard.  When we move with it, in the flow of it life is easy.

Learning to flow with life is the challenge most of us humans have.  If you watch nature most things just flow, no resistance and when there is resistance there is catastrophe!  Earthquakes are an example of resistance in the natural world.  We too often have life give us examples of our own catastrophic results of our resistance to change; Heart attacks, diabetes, cancer, depression all of these are our bodies way of saying “things are not alright with me!”.

So how do we avoid the catastrophes or repair the damage after a catastrophe?  Well, it requires us to change what is not working.  I know I can here you saying, “I do not even know what to change” or “It is uncomfortable”. Have you ever heard the saying “Anything worth having takes work?” It’s true, but I am here to tell you “YOU” are worth the work, discomfort and challenge.

Let’s break it down as to why change is so difficult; did you know that your Mind would rather be comfortable than change the status quo?  That’s right, your mind is so powerful that it is getting in the way of you making the changes necessary for better health, more happiness and total wellness.  As a matter of fact your mind is the thing that is controlling your every action, your Sub-conscious mind.  It is kind of like having an entity that lives in your head at a control panel that decides everything that you are going to do, say or be.  I don’t know about you but that thought is scary!  In essence your sub-conscious, that part that lives beneath the surface that you are not consciously aware of has ultimate power over your every thought and action.  Here is the other problem; your mind has been making decisions about everything that has ever happened to you from the moment you were born and possibly before that too.  The limiting decisions are the ones that are getting in the way.  It is like having filters that block you from even seeing the good that is all around you.  Say you had an experience where you were on the school grounds and some bully came up and took your lunch away from you and you were really hungry!  Your mind could have made a decision that said “My food will be taken away from me so I need to eat it fast”. The results would be that you would have difficulty letting food go and you would eat really fast which would make you eat more of it.  Or, your mind could have made the decision that “I can’t get what I want or need”. Well, then you could have the experience of never feeling like you deserve to have anything money, a partner, the right job no matter how hard you try.  Now neither of these scenarios would be conscious, it would be an underlying program that your mind keeps running so that it can feel in control.  Here is the other thing about the mind, it would rather be right than happy.  Wow, that’s a kicker.

What I am getting at here is that I know change is hard.  But it is not because you are lazy or have no will power.  It is because you have been looking in the wrong place to fix the problem.  It is not about you beating you up because you can’t, it is about you honoring you in the process of the change and waking up to the truth of what is really going on!

Change is a Really Good Thing, it means we are flowing with life and not against it.  just remember to love yourself along the way.



There is a book of such importance that is available NOW that I feel compelled to tell you about it. 

“Out of The Shadows” by Sharon Reigie Maynard is a book for our time and is told through the experiences of Myra, Tuma, Dana and Jerra.  As we see through their eyes the story of The Ancient Ones and emerge “Out of the Shadows” of our own understanding, we are taken on an adventure to discover ourselves.

Check out this link for more information and to order this truly magical book.  http://www.ancientsoutoftheshadows.com/campaign3.html

I highly recommend this book for anyone who is searching for Truth, looking to find their own story and go within.  Most Importantly the reader will awaken the codes within that will bring them out of their own Shadows.

If you have not yet had the great pleasure of meeting Sharon Reigei Maynard, I hope you will find out where she will be on tour with this book and meet her.  She is a warm, generous and gifted healer, a person to follow in the 21st century!

Love and light

Lorayne Ham

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