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What do I mean?  I mean that your life, health, attitude and flow of your life are all about you.  After all we are all the center of our own little universe and we can only really see from our own point of view.  This gives us a unique perspective on what we really need to make us feel happy, safe and well.  This is exactly the idea behind the Kalos Transformative process.  With the assistance of a Kalos Health Facilitator you can get feedback from your body to know exactly what it needs, wants and desires right NOW!  Haven’t we all wanted to have the operating manual to our bodies and know what to do when something goes wrong?  With Kalos you can have the ability to troubleshoot and repair anything that has or will go wrong in your body.

Now, no two bodies are alike so each persons operating manual is a little different based on a lifetime of different experiences.  Kalso individualizes your health and wellness care and give you the power and the education to assist your body in doing what it was designed to do, HEAL ITSELF!

Why it is that most other Health and Wellness options assume that your body is broken and will be hard to fix?  It is like going to the auto mechanic and having them say “it is a lost cause and you might as well get rid of it or use duct tap to hold it together until it just falls apart”.  I do not know about you but that is no solution to long-term maintenance.  What I do know is that the body can repair itself no matter how far into disrepair it may be, even if it has been brought to the brink of no longer functioning.  The Body is intelligent it does know what it needs and sometimes (possibly most of the time) it needs us  to simply get out of it’s way!

Eighty percent of all disease has an emotional component.  What this means is that taking a pill or cutting something out does not fix the underlying cause of the disease.  Until the underlying cause is addressed your body will continue to be in disrepair.

That is where the Kalos Health Facilitator comes into play, they can assist your body’s communication with you, along with providing education, so that you know what your body needs to heal and repair itself.  If that means doing a little emotional excavation, the Kalso Health Facilitator can assist with that too.  They help you to understand what decisions were made that lead down the road to disrepair.  What power it is to know that you can get wholistic wellness care and know, without a doubt, what is needed to get back to wellness and stay well forever.  I Love that idea!

If you are like me and you want to know what your body needs to get and maintain health and wellness, I suggest you locate a Kalos Health Facilitator right away and start feeling empowered right NOW!

As always I am here to assist you with your total wellness care.

Lorayne Ham

in-lighten.net

inlightenwellness.com


Life is all about Change and just as the seasons change we change too.

Change is inevitable and if we fight it life is hard.  When we move with it, in the flow of it life is easy.

Learning to flow with life is the challenge most of us humans have.  If you watch nature most things just flow, no resistance and when there is resistance there is catastrophe!  Earthquakes are an example of resistance in the natural world.  We too often have life give us examples of our own catastrophic results of our resistance to change; Heart attacks, diabetes, cancer, depression all of these are our bodies way of saying “things are not alright with me!”.

So how do we avoid the catastrophes or repair the damage after a catastrophe?  Well, it requires us to change what is not working.  I know I can here you saying, “I do not even know what to change” or “It is uncomfortable”. Have you ever heard the saying “Anything worth having takes work?” It’s true, but I am here to tell you “YOU” are worth the work, discomfort and challenge.

Let’s break it down as to why change is so difficult; did you know that your Mind would rather be comfortable than change the status quo?  That’s right, your mind is so powerful that it is getting in the way of you making the changes necessary for better health, more happiness and total wellness.  As a matter of fact your mind is the thing that is controlling your every action, your Sub-conscious mind.  It is kind of like having an entity that lives in your head at a control panel that decides everything that you are going to do, say or be.  I don’t know about you but that thought is scary!  In essence your sub-conscious, that part that lives beneath the surface that you are not consciously aware of has ultimate power over your every thought and action.  Here is the other problem; your mind has been making decisions about everything that has ever happened to you from the moment you were born and possibly before that too.  The limiting decisions are the ones that are getting in the way.  It is like having filters that block you from even seeing the good that is all around you.  Say you had an experience where you were on the school grounds and some bully came up and took your lunch away from you and you were really hungry!  Your mind could have made a decision that said “My food will be taken away from me so I need to eat it fast”. The results would be that you would have difficulty letting food go and you would eat really fast which would make you eat more of it.  Or, your mind could have made the decision that “I can’t get what I want or need”. Well, then you could have the experience of never feeling like you deserve to have anything money, a partner, the right job no matter how hard you try.  Now neither of these scenarios would be conscious, it would be an underlying program that your mind keeps running so that it can feel in control.  Here is the other thing about the mind, it would rather be right than happy.  Wow, that’s a kicker.

What I am getting at here is that I know change is hard.  But it is not because you are lazy or have no will power.  It is because you have been looking in the wrong place to fix the problem.  It is not about you beating you up because you can’t, it is about you honoring you in the process of the change and waking up to the truth of what is really going on!

Change is a Really Good Thing, it means we are flowing with life and not against it.  just remember to love yourself along the way.



Change is inevitable.  We all know it and yet most of us fear change.  We fear walking into the unknown, the un-discovered and it is because we do not know if we will be safe or not.  It all comes down to safety.  We are so afraid of change that we would rather stay with the uncomfortable, the un-fulfilling, the un-satisfying than face change.  I know people that stay in horribly abusive situation because they are afraid that what ever situation that follows will be worse than the one they are in.  They become numb.  This, to some degree or another, is how most people live their lives.  Sad, I know, but fact.  We would rather become numb to our existence  than change it.

Even when we have someone telling us that we can have a better life if we only…Give up the job, leave the partner or move.  We are so accustomed to our existence and numbness that we can not see beyond our current reality.  So we are in fear about what might come next.  The reason this happens is that it touches us in our very survival and when that happens we go into our fight or flight mechenism and we hunker down.  We will fight anyone or anything that threatens our reality.  We may not want to consciously stay in the bad marriage, partnership, job, town, whatever it is but at least we know what to expect.

So what happens when we finally get beyond the fear and do decide to make the change?  We have mustered up our courage and we take that leap of faith and……. there we are.  Things are always more interesting, scary, exhilarating.  This is the point where we find out what we are made of.  Many people get to this point, they have finally taken a step in the right direction and suddenly something comes along that triggers their fear and they jump back into the old pattern.  Or,. something comes along and they feel fear but they still decide to continue on the new path.  These are the few that dare to live grander, bigger and more adventurous lives.  They have faced themselves and their fear and still, they moved forward.

Does this mean that they will never face fear again, No!  They will probably face fear every day; it is just the way of things.  What will be different is that they know that they will survive.   This is the journey of life, we either grow and learn to face fear and change or we stand still.  I for one choose to face my fears head on every day because that means that I am growing and really, what’s the point of living if we are not growing?  I figure why waste the trip!

Learn to embrace change and take advantage of every opportunity to face yourself in truth.  Move forward knowing that you have lived, really lived!

I invite you to change something everyday, you might just like it!

If you would like to move forward in your life and  embrace change or would like to develop tools and skills to do that…I teach courses, classes and workshops to support you in you journey.  Go to http://www.in-lighten.net

In Light, Lorayne


All this month I have been talking about living an empowered life.  Well, what does that mean, really? Before I can answer that let’s look at what Power is, personal power, the power that is innately ours.  I do not mean power-over.  I mean that power that we hold within ourselves that defines us.

We have all had times or moments in our lives where we did not feel powerful, or that we had any power at all.  In fact we have felt small and insignificant.  How could we feel our power. Those times where we felt that we had no power were times when we gave our power to another.  Not consciously of course, but all the same we gave it to them.

Let me explain;  let’s say I have had an upbringing that modeled to me that men have all of the power and I am just a woman so I have no power.  As a child I knew no other way to operate.  I grew up and I am still playing out that same role because I am running on an old program.  As an adult I see examples out in the world that show me that men do not have all of the power,  consciously I know the old program is false.  I make attempts to stand up in my power and things are going along pretty well until I am challenged.  I am put in a position with a man who believes that woman do not have any right to power and all of the sudden my old programming is triggered, on the subconscious, and I hand this man all of my power and become subservient to his will.  This would throw me in to rage at myself because on some level I know I handed my power over.

Do you see how this mechanism gets triggered? and then we get whiny and angry and bitchy because we feel powerless!

So, how do we break out of our own programming and start to take back our power to become empowered?  We start to become aware of our actions when we are doing them.  We take classes, courses and workshops that help move us out of our old programming.  We rise up and say to ourselves NO-MORE!  This is truly an inside job.

I have a course called “Shift Your Perspective NOW!”  that helps you to start and recognize where you give your power away and helps you to identify your true power.  Check out my website at http://www.in-lighten.net.

It is my goal to see all women, men and children Empowered, so that they can live rich and full lives free from all programming from their past.

Imagine a world where everyone is intentful of purpose and free to choose their thoughts without any baggage from the past.  Image a world where we are all EMPOWERED!

Lorayne Ham,  In Lighten – Healing People MIND, BODY and SPIRIT


Today on the radio show, 1150AM, KKNW 8-9AM 1st Monday of the month, I took callers for the first on the show.  It was wonderful to hear from viewers who really want to embrace their independence of the outside influences in their lives.

I understand that it is not easy to shut the outside out, it is constantly in our faces screaming for our attention, it takes diligence to keep yourself on your track and not on everyone else’s.

What works for me is to;

Shut off the news or even TV all together.

Read books take inspire and uplift you.

If you have friends that are constantly trying to bring you down, maybe it is time to find new friends!

Let family members that do not believe your way have their thoughts and you keep yours.

Let family members know that you are no listening to the news or the doom and gloom and ask them to keep any negativity to themselves

Make choices that support you and uplift you. In every moment.

Be willing to make changes that are uncomfortable but in  the long run are beneficial.

Start with this moment right NOW.  Make a choice.

You are probably saying “easy for you”  but I too had to stat somewhere, I have just been doing this longer.  This is not easy work but it is the most important work you will ever do on your own behalf.  How important do you think you are in your life, if not you then who?  If you do not put you first in your life no one else will!  Take a stand, make a choice, live in passion for YOU!  You are worth the effort and your life is worth the effort, be willing to live a life of magic.

Be the role model for your children, your community, your country and the world.  The more of usthat are willing to shift our perspectives and live lives of our own choosing, the more we gicve others permission to do the same.

Take the challenge and live your Truth!

Experiment and have fun.


Are you thinking your thoughts or Are your thoughts thinking you?  A question you may want to be asking yourself any time that little pesky voice rears up and starts telling the truth, as it sees it, not the Truth you know.

Taking stock of your thoughts is a good way to know what is going on in your life; are you thinking..I do not have enough time,  I am always late, I am too fat,  too thin, too.. too…too!  Here is a good one, I do not know what I want or I am so stupid!  Listen to the words you say (or the voice says) to yourself.  They are very telling.

Are you fed up with giving your attention to the little voice?  Are you ready to take back control of your thoughts and take back control of your life?

Be the MASTER of your own Universe, start with your thoughts.

Have a positivity day.


I believe that we all have it in us to break through the barriers of our past and move into our future with joy.  Discovering what holds us back is the key to moving into our future.  The EIP process is very effective at unlocking the blocks and patterns and unhooking us from predetermined behavior.

I have been working with this process myself and with my clients for over a year now and am finding some amazing results.  Moving past those behaviors that you keep repeating. Those patterns that you keep repeating even when you no longer want to.  WE have always been made to feel taht we have to suck it up and just stop.  Many of us have found that so much easier said than done.  With the EIP process you can move through those programs to the other side and begin to see a future filled with joy!

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