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I have been pondering the idea of time lately, it is ever moving and yet there are moments where it seems to stand still. Why is it that when you are younger it never seems to move fast enough and when you get older it never seems to slow down? These are the things I find myself pondering in the recesses of my mind.
I was thinking this morning about the “Lazy Days of Summer” you know, those days where time slows down and we all get to relax, sit back and enjoy life…. STOP EVERYTHING….what happened to those days? I really want to know.
I think what might have happen to those wonderful times, is that we forgot to relax, just sit back and watch as life ticked by. When did we get so wrapped up in being busy, going here and there, getting this and that? As I was pondering what happened to those wonderful times it occurred to me that maybe, just maybe I could bring them back into my life.
So, how do we unplug? How do we stop the constant thrust forward and just breathe? B-R-E-A-T-H-E! I have decided to experiment with this and allow that warmth of the sun to seep into my pores and feel what it is like to stop and relax, enjoy and experience the moments as time just moves by.
I am not sure how I got to the point of the ever moving, doing, accomplishing, task oriented, do…do..doing of life….Argh! How did we all get there? I think we have forgotten how important it is to enjoy our lives, the wonderful moments where nothing of any real significance is happening but that moment is the most important thing ever! If we can just sit with ourselves and BE. No TV, Radio, Computer, Car or Job….just that delicious moment…and the next …and the next moment.
I think maybe we have become addicted to the speed, the rush, the ever moving, changing excitement. I’ll bet that if you allowed yourself the moment to experiencve how each feel, the rush and the peace, you would at first want the rush..it is familiar, comfortably uncomfortable. But, if you can allow yourself the experience of the peaceful moment, allow yourself the time to let it seep into your very soul, you would not want to let it go. there is a profound rest in those moments that I long to return to.
I invite you to give yourself the gift of the moment, allow yourself to experience the magic!
Moment by moment, Lorayne
Funny how as we go through our day we encounter obstacles to success around corners we did not even know existed. Has this happened to you? It happens to me when I least expect it. That is the way of it, if we expected it, it would not be getting in our way, we would be aware.
I am talking about those pesky little subconscious thoughts that creep in at the most inopportune times and sabotage us from moving forward head long into our lives and our success.
Recently I was preparing for a new class I am teaching, “Prosperity & Money”. It is about getting to the cause of what is in the way of peoples prosperity, their healthy relationship with money. This is an area that so many people are struggling with and I decided that I was going to provide a course that would assist people to finally get to the truth and find out where their money/prosperity programs and beliefs started. Since my job is to assist my clients in finding out the programs, beliefs and emotions that are getting in the way of their total health, wealth and happiness it did not seem like such a stretch to create this course. I was going along just fine until I was awakened by that little voice (the foreign saboteur) that kept saying, WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE? What do you think you are doing? STOP! What will people think. You are not qualified. Maybe none of you have had this voice in your head before and maybe you have and can relate.
This is the very moment when most people are stopped from moving forward. The voice gets the best of them and they believe it to be the truth, and it is for the moment. Once again it has won and we are put back in our place. How many times has this happened to you? Do you stop, give up settle for the familiar inertia? This is where most people resign themselves to never getting ahead. As you can see, I know this voice really well, as do you.
This is the critical moment, do I listen to the voice? Or, do I muster all of the courage I can and push forward? No one would blame me if I sunk back into the wall and continued the status-quo. After all everyone hears it and they all understand, Right?
Well…what should I do? I could kick myself in the butt and say don’t be an idiot, you have worked too hard and too long to build your reputation, you are respected, you have responsibility. Oops, what just happened? The voice is using another tactic! Just another way to sabotage me since the first tact did not seem to work. Are you starting to get the idea that maybe, just maybe, your perceived lack of success was never yours to begin with?
The foreign saboteur is so subtle, so sneaky, so insidious and it tries every possible way to keep us from moving in the direction of our spirit! So what do we do now?
Let me tell you what I did and do every moment of every day. I stop, take a deep breath and remember right in this moment, and this moment and this moment, I am doing the very best I know how to do. It may take me a few tries before I can conquer the voice but if I am diligent and remember that it is not me, IT IS NOT ME..,then and only then can I recognize I have won the battle, maybe not the war, but certainly the battle, at least for now. Next time I may let it get the best of me, I have to be OK with that, but the only way it wins is if I give up. I don’t know about you but I have fought too hard and too long and I am committed to my moving forward. I am committed to my success and the only person I measure my success to and with is myself. If I continue to move forward towards my chosen destiny then I will always win. I will always prevail.
So, what about you, are you finally going to realize the voice in your head that is keeping you from your success is not you? Are you finally going to start being kinder to yourself, gentler and more compassionate? I would recommend a good healthy dose of self-honoring, self-celebration and self-love. After all, you chose to be here, to experience all you could and that means success too. Life is certainly a process and I intend to enjoy the ride!
Here’s to our Success!
Lorayne Ham
In Lighten Wellness
www.inlightenwellness.com
As we move out of the darkness of winter and into the light of Spring it is an awakening, we are birthed anew.
Hope returns with the flowers and I see with new eyes the world I live in. It is as if all of the grime has been washed away, I am refreshed.
As we awaken to spring there is another awakening that is happening all around us, a revolution of sorts. People are awakening to see the truth and as they awaken to themselves they awakened to the world around them. Of course we could focus on all that is wrong or that we perceive as wrong around us but that would only bring more of what is wrong about. I prefer to awaken anew to the new day and see it with fresh eyes, eyes of hope, joy and love.
I choose to wake up each day and look out at the masses of humanity and see them not for what has been imposed upon them, but to see the truth underneath, they are love and we are all part of the human family together.
We hear a lot about the new awakening that is happening as if it is just happening, that is only partially true. It requires each of us to consciously choose to awaken to our own truth and then see that truth reflected in the eyes of our fellow humans here on this beautiful planet we call home. it takes each of us to have our own awakening to create the global awakening, to turn the tides away from hate towards LOVE.
Will you choose to awaken and contribute to the Grand Awakening? Will you choose Love over Hate? Will you choose to sit with you in the quiet recesses of your heart and Love YOU?
Lorayne Ham
Happiness is a state of mind. We hear this all of the time. Well, what if you do not know what makes you happy or what is keeping you from your happiness? I am certain that if I knew what was making me unhappy that I would at least be curious and try to figure it out. Of course, everyone wants to be happy. Wouldn’t you? After all none of us wants to be unhappy. Those people that say it is a state of mind are either out of their minds or maybe, just maybe they know something that we don’t.
What if it were as simple as finding out the under lying belief system that is blocking us from knowing our own path to happiness. It is as if someone long ago said “You can only be this happy and no more” It is like a set point on happiness. What if you could change that “set point” and choose how and what level of happiness you were going to have.
I am big on choice and I know that there is a simple and easy way for you to be happy in this moment. There is a technique that helps you to discover the decision you made long ago that is getting in the way, that belief that is holding you back from living your life full of joy and happiness. A decision made in a fraction of a second, with limited knowledge, limited information and limited comprehension. A decision made when you were small and did not have the tools to comprehend the ramifications of your decision and how long it would be effecting your life.
The technique is called Kalos Health Facilitation. A Kalos Helath Facilitator can take you back to the time of the decision and help you to see what happened, who was involved and what you decided in the moment to be the truth. “The Truth Shall Set You FREE” is an accurate statement and one that I see confirmed over and over again in my practice. Clients are transformed and are living lives free from the limits of their past. Free to choose a new reality and live each day knowing they are capable of real Happiness in their lives.
Isn’t it time for you to discover your true happiness? When you are ready, I am here to help you to do just that.
Light
Lorayne Ham
Life is all about Change and just as the seasons change we change too.
Change is inevitable and if we fight it life is hard. When we move with it, in the flow of it life is easy.
Learning to flow with life is the challenge most of us humans have. If you watch nature most things just flow, no resistance and when there is resistance there is catastrophe! Earthquakes are an example of resistance in the natural world. We too often have life give us examples of our own catastrophic results of our resistance to change; Heart attacks, diabetes, cancer, depression all of these are our bodies way of saying “things are not alright with me!”.
So how do we avoid the catastrophes or repair the damage after a catastrophe? Well, it requires us to change what is not working. I know I can here you saying, “I do not even know what to change” or “It is uncomfortable”. Have you ever heard the saying “Anything worth having takes work?” It’s true, but I am here to tell you “YOU” are worth the work, discomfort and challenge.
Let’s break it down as to why change is so difficult; did you know that your Mind would rather be comfortable than change the status quo? That’s right, your mind is so powerful that it is getting in the way of you making the changes necessary for better health, more happiness and total wellness. As a matter of fact your mind is the thing that is controlling your every action, your Sub-conscious mind. It is kind of like having an entity that lives in your head at a control panel that decides everything that you are going to do, say or be. I don’t know about you but that thought is scary! In essence your sub-conscious, that part that lives beneath the surface that you are not consciously aware of has ultimate power over your every thought and action. Here is the other problem; your mind has been making decisions about everything that has ever happened to you from the moment you were born and possibly before that too. The limiting decisions are the ones that are getting in the way. It is like having filters that block you from even seeing the good that is all around you. Say you had an experience where you were on the school grounds and some bully came up and took your lunch away from you and you were really hungry! Your mind could have made a decision that said “My food will be taken away from me so I need to eat it fast”. The results would be that you would have difficulty letting food go and you would eat really fast which would make you eat more of it. Or, your mind could have made the decision that “I can’t get what I want or need”. Well, then you could have the experience of never feeling like you deserve to have anything money, a partner, the right job no matter how hard you try. Now neither of these scenarios would be conscious, it would be an underlying program that your mind keeps running so that it can feel in control. Here is the other thing about the mind, it would rather be right than happy. Wow, that’s a kicker.
What I am getting at here is that I know change is hard. But it is not because you are lazy or have no will power. It is because you have been looking in the wrong place to fix the problem. It is not about you beating you up because you can’t, it is about you honoring you in the process of the change and waking up to the truth of what is really going on!
Change is a Really Good Thing, it means we are flowing with life and not against it. just remember to love yourself along the way.
There is a book of such importance that is available NOW that I feel compelled to tell you about it.
“Out of The Shadows” by Sharon Reigie Maynard is a book for our time and is told through the experiences of Myra, Tuma, Dana and Jerra. As we see through their eyes the story of The Ancient Ones and emerge “Out of the Shadows” of our own understanding, we are taken on an adventure to discover ourselves.
Check out this link for more information and to order this truly magical book. http://www.ancientsoutoftheshadows.com/campaign3.html
I highly recommend this book for anyone who is searching for Truth, looking to find their own story and go within. Most Importantly the reader will awaken the codes within that will bring them out of their own Shadows.
If you have not yet had the great pleasure of meeting Sharon Reigei Maynard, I hope you will find out where she will be on tour with this book and meet her. She is a warm, generous and gifted healer, a person to follow in the 21st century!
Love and light
Lorayne Ham
Change is inevitable. We all know it and yet most of us fear change. We fear walking into the unknown, the un-discovered and it is because we do not know if we will be safe or not. It all comes down to safety. We are so afraid of change that we would rather stay with the uncomfortable, the un-fulfilling, the un-satisfying than face change. I know people that stay in horribly abusive situation because they are afraid that what ever situation that follows will be worse than the one they are in. They become numb. This, to some degree or another, is how most people live their lives. Sad, I know, but fact. We would rather become numb to our existence than change it.
Even when we have someone telling us that we can have a better life if we only…Give up the job, leave the partner or move. We are so accustomed to our existence and numbness that we can not see beyond our current reality. So we are in fear about what might come next. The reason this happens is that it touches us in our very survival and when that happens we go into our fight or flight mechenism and we hunker down. We will fight anyone or anything that threatens our reality. We may not want to consciously stay in the bad marriage, partnership, job, town, whatever it is but at least we know what to expect.
So what happens when we finally get beyond the fear and do decide to make the change? We have mustered up our courage and we take that leap of faith and……. there we are. Things are always more interesting, scary, exhilarating. This is the point where we find out what we are made of. Many people get to this point, they have finally taken a step in the right direction and suddenly something comes along that triggers their fear and they jump back into the old pattern. Or,. something comes along and they feel fear but they still decide to continue on the new path. These are the few that dare to live grander, bigger and more adventurous lives. They have faced themselves and their fear and still, they moved forward.
Does this mean that they will never face fear again, No! They will probably face fear every day; it is just the way of things. What will be different is that they know that they will survive. This is the journey of life, we either grow and learn to face fear and change or we stand still. I for one choose to face my fears head on every day because that means that I am growing and really, what’s the point of living if we are not growing? I figure why waste the trip!
Learn to embrace change and take advantage of every opportunity to face yourself in truth. Move forward knowing that you have lived, really lived!
I invite you to change something everyday, you might just like it!
If you would like to move forward in your life and embrace change or would like to develop tools and skills to do that…I teach courses, classes and workshops to support you in you journey. Go to www.in-lighten.net
In Light, Lorayne
All this month I have been talking about living an empowered life. Well, what does that mean, really? Before I can answer that let’s look at what Power is, personal power, the power that is innately ours. I do not mean power-over. I mean that power that we hold within ourselves that defines us.
We have all had times or moments in our lives where we did not feel powerful, or that we had any power at all. In fact we have felt small and insignificant. How could we feel our power. Those times where we felt that we had no power were times when we gave our power to another. Not consciously of course, but all the same we gave it to them.
Let me explain; let’s say I have had an upbringing that modeled to me that men have all of the power and I am just a woman so I have no power. As a child I knew no other way to operate. I grew up and I am still playing out that same role because I am running on an old program. As an adult I see examples out in the world that show me that men do not have all of the power, consciously I know the old program is false. I make attempts to stand up in my power and things are going along pretty well until I am challenged. I am put in a position with a man who believes that woman do not have any right to power and all of the sudden my old programming is triggered, on the subconscious, and I hand this man all of my power and become subservient to his will. This would throw me in to rage at myself because on some level I know I handed my power over.
Do you see how this mechanism gets triggered? and then we get whiny and angry and bitchy because we feel powerless!
So, how do we break out of our own programming and start to take back our power to become empowered? We start to become aware of our actions when we are doing them. We take classes, courses and workshops that help move us out of our old programming. We rise up and say to ourselves NO-MORE! This is truly an inside job.
I have a course called “Shift Your Perspective NOW!” that helps you to start and recognize where you give your power away and helps you to identify your true power. Check out my website at www.in-lighten.net.
It is my goal to see all women, men and children Empowered, so that they can live rich and full lives free from all programming from their past.
Imagine a world where everyone is intentful of purpose and free to choose their thoughts without any baggage from the past. Image a world where we are all EMPOWERED!
Lorayne Ham, In Lighten – Healing People MIND, BODY and SPIRIT
Today on the radio show, 1150AM, KKNW 8-9AM 1st Monday of the month, I took callers for the first on the show. It was wonderful to hear from viewers who really want to embrace their independence of the outside influences in their lives.
I understand that it is not easy to shut the outside out, it is constantly in our faces screaming for our attention, it takes diligence to keep yourself on your track and not on everyone else’s.
What works for me is to;
Shut off the news or even TV all together.
Read books take inspire and uplift you.
If you have friends that are constantly trying to bring you down, maybe it is time to find new friends!
Let family members that do not believe your way have their thoughts and you keep yours.
Let family members know that you are no listening to the news or the doom and gloom and ask them to keep any negativity to themselves
Make choices that support you and uplift you. In every moment.
Be willing to make changes that are uncomfortable but in the long run are beneficial.
Start with this moment right NOW. Make a choice.
You are probably saying “easy for you” but I too had to stat somewhere, I have just been doing this longer. This is not easy work but it is the most important work you will ever do on your own behalf. How important do you think you are in your life, if not you then who? If you do not put you first in your life no one else will! Take a stand, make a choice, live in passion for YOU! You are worth the effort and your life is worth the effort, be willing to live a life of magic.
Be the role model for your children, your community, your country and the world. The more of usthat are willing to shift our perspectives and live lives of our own choosing, the more we gicve others permission to do the same.
Take the challenge and live your Truth!
Experiment and have fun.
Dear friends,
I want to let you know of a wonderful insightful book that I know you will want to own and revisit time and time again. This book is a resource of wonderful stories by incredible Women of Wisdom. I highly recommend it!
Every person who purchases a book on June 23rd will have the benefit of choosing as many special gifts as you like from a wide variety of truly gifted healers, teachers, film makers, musicians and artists, I want each and ever one of them.
You will also find an offering there from Lilian Mavridara and myself, the Mini-Shift workshop. A 3 and a half hour workshop that helps you to get clearer on what it is you really want to be doing with your life and identify a key pattern that is holding you back from realizing it in your life NOW!
Whichever gifts you choose I know you will enjoy them as well as the book “Women of Wisdom”. Let’s make this virtual book tour a huge success.
Here is the tour and book information:
Women of Wisdom by Kris Steinnes, is being offered beginning on June 23rd, 2009 at 12:01 am. I invite you to go to this page – www.wisewomanpublishing.com/womenofwisdom.html – to access the order page and then go back to this page to access the bonus page. On the Exclusive Private Invite page, enter your order confirmation code. That will allow you to gain entry to the bonus gifts that are available to people who buy the book on June 23rd.
Women of Wisdom: Empowering the Dreams and Spirit of Women
2008 Award winning finalist for Best New Non-Fiction from USA Book News
2009 Bronze award winner for Body-Mind-Spirit from Independent Publishers.
This is a unique book with inspiring stories, art and poetry combined with strong voices of best selling women authors and leaders in their fields. Throughout the book they share thought provoking ideas that explore the hidden potentials and gifts that reside in the depths of the feminine spirit. Women who are seeking for meaning in their lives will find this book a powerful tool to guide and inspire them.
For seventeen years women have been attending the Women of Wisdom gatherings to uncover and celebrate the power of feminine spirit. In this compilation of spiritual, academic, and artistic contributions from professionals and lay people, poetry mixes with history, visual art with the inner spirit, and the intellect with soulful longing, creating an inspiring kaleidoscope of feminine reverence. This book offers practical and moving guidance that speaks to the divine within us all.
Key aspects of the book:
• Thought provoking essays from some of the greatest women thinkers and writers of our time from the Women of Wisdom Conference.
• Exercises to explore the topics in each chapter gives the reader an experience of their own personal journey towards self-awareness.
• Personal stories sharing life changes from their WOW experience
• Women of Wisdom’s story and development of key aspects of the conference – art, music, ritual theater, and circle leadership.
• The reader is taken on a journey through the conference with empowering presentations, workshops, ceremonies, art, poetry, stories, and circles.
• Art and poetry displayed throughout the book add a visual element that moves the reader to experience the creative feminine. Many of the poems are songs from well-known musicians from the women’s music movement such as Holly Near, Rhiannon, Cris Williamson, Ferron and Libby Roderick.
• Diversity of more than sixty contributors sharing their experience of the power of the feminine voice.
The ten key women presenters discuss many current problems facing women and our society today and offer words of hope and wisdom to help women tackle these problems that relate to their personal life.
I know that this will be a fun and interesting virtual tour, if you have not yet ordered your copy of Women of Wisdom, be sure to order it tomorrow and receive your choice of fantastic gifts! Thanks for letting me share it with you!
Light
Lorayne
