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Looks like summer has finally arrived in the Pacific Northwest and it is glorious! I know some of you are on the east coast and you have been living through the heat and humidity for some time now. I know this too will change soon. For now though I am going to enjoy myself, right where I am.
Whatever the outside circumstances of your world you can choose to be happy and enjoy life, or not. If you give your power away to anything outside of you, even the weather, then you will find yourself powerless. You have the right to stand up for yourself, claim your power and live your life empowered not by your outside world but by your inner knowing.
Whatever life serves you, chose to see it as an opportunity not a drudgery. “Being” patient and kind with yourself and loving what shows up. Sometimes things show up that were completely unexpected and you can be surprises and overjoyed by the moment. The trick is to be open, if you are all caught up in the stuff going on around you, you might just miss the gifts along the way.
Since the Dog Days of Summer are with us for a little while longer, stay calm, stay cool and collected and let the world do what it will without you being caught in it. Stay positive and maybe a little magic will show up unexpected and right when you need it.
So much is happening these days that sometimes it feels like we are thrust into the future with little or no preparation. As time speeds up and we are all feeling it’s effects it feels, at times, like all we can do is hold on!
I am not sure if you are feeling any of this but I sure am. Sometimes I just want to disconnect from it all and slow down! Recently I decided I would do just that. It is about time, the Universe has been giving me signals for months and it took a serious accident to get me to finally listen. I guess it was not so much a decision as a requirement. In any event, here I am slowed down and what is coming out of this experience has been unexpected and magical.
I am learning how to “Be” and in that being am discovering myself. Really seeing all of the ways that I have been, in essence running full throttle away from my self and my knowing. I am not even sure why. I guess I have been so use to running so that I would not have to face myself. Perhaps out of fear that what myself would tell me would be so devastating that I would not survive. Guess what? It was ALL in my mind. The truth is, there is nothing remotely horrible, bad, disgusting or even evil about me. I am, like you, a beautiful, radiant, loving, joy filled being of the Source.
What I am discovering is that there was something outside of me that was making me believe I was flawed and therefore not worthy of being Love. Basically I was duped! Well NO MORE! I am finally ready to recognize the truth of me and in that recognition begins the healing.
I hope that you too, can find your truth, the truth that you are now and always have been worthy of being Loved.
I invite you to join in my experiment and check out my other blog http://www.benowexperiment.com/
Until next time,
Lorayne Ham
Life is a moment by moment adventure. Are you enjoying it?
As I allow myself to see each moment in my life as an opportunity rather than an obligation I am moving out of being the victim of circumstance and into the creator and explorer of my life!
As the creator I get to choose what each moment will be… a burden or an adventure, the choice has always been mine. I admit, It has not always felt like my choice, in fact it has mostly felt like I was caught in some disastrous wild, raging wind with no chance at changing the direction. But… what if we decided to jump off, stop the ride and just BE? Most of us just do not know that we can stop it.
Now that we have stopped the forward thrusting, out-of-control momentum, we have a choice to either jump on again or change direction. I choose to change direction but this time do it with focused intention. Choosing the life I want instead of the one created out of past beliefs and imposed dogma. What if I chose to see life from the place of Love, Peace, Joy, Fun, Passion, what if…?
Instead of looking at what is, choosing to move into what could be… Imagine the possibility. Creating a life of wonder and magic.
I do not know what you will choose, you have free will. I am going to choose in this moment a life of pure wonder… Will you join me?
These are important times. We must move into a state of active Peace! It is up to us to change ourselves and then the world , each of us individually moving out of fear and into our power.
In these times of tumultuous news with earthquakes, threats of nuclear contamination in Japan and threats of War in Libya, I recommend that you center yourself and place yourself in a space of LOVE. If this is elusive to you think of someone you have a deep connection with, (it may be a child, a spouse, a pet, maybe it is nature, trees, a great forest) whatever it is for you I ask you to focus on it NOW. Take a deep breath and let the feelings of this connection fill you up, moving you out of fear and into a state of peace. Imagine what the world would be like if each one of us were continually in a deep state of peace and love.
The more we engage in the mass fear, the more we contribute to it. Remove yourself from contributing to fear and be a force of peace and love by moving into and contributing to peace and love. If this is a challenge for you, there are many guides and teachers that are present and able to teach you how to hold this state of peaceful awareness. I am happy to connect you with a teacher or guide if one does not show up into your awareness.
We are in a time in our world today that requires us to focus on what we want our world to be, not what we see with our physical eyes. There is a great calling upon us to move out of fear and into the active state of peace, becoming a peace agent in the world.
I am sending out the call for all PEACE AGENTS to stand up, be counted and hold steady. We can and will be a force for good and usher in the new energies of peach upon the earth. Are you ready to hold with us?
There are many teachings that prepare you to be a Peace Agent, one of them is Reiki. Reiki is a powerful and gentle energy that deeply relaxes the physical form and calms the emotional / mental as well. Reiki can help you to usher in your own state of peace and love and then send that out into the greater world. I love Reiki for this because it is something that is readily available around the world as there are many practitioners. If you would like to locate a Reiki Practitioner in your area you can go to http://www.reikimembership.com/MembershipListing.aspx this is through the International Center for Reiki Training.
Moving out of fear and not allowing the current news to control how you feel is the first step to becoming a Peace Agent. It then requires you to take action, get training if needed and then start to actively move into the world and Hold steady.
Are YOU up for the challenge? Are you willing to move beyond the stress and fear of the day and into Peace, Love, Joy and ACTION to make this world a better place?
It starts with just one of us making a stand, will you stand with me?
If you are looking for training, assistance or a friend in arms, visit my website at www.inlightenwellness.com.
Lorayne Ham
I am so grateful for all of the many friends, associates and family who continually inspire me.
Today I learned a very powerful lesson; The level of my ability to recieve is directly proportionate to my ability to give freely.
I use to be the most generous person, I was constantly giving little gifts to people I loved. When I grandmother passed away I seemed to stop giving. I remember someone telling me (at least what I heard) that I was giving to get…love, attention, power, you name it. All of this happened around the same time and so I just stopped. It was not a consious thought to stop, but I did. I grew empty, sad, lost.
What I realized today is that giving brought me great JOY and Happiness. What I stopped was my happiness, my joy. I was not giving to get from the other person, I was giving to feel the internal Self-Love, the pure unadulterated joy of watching as someone took pleasure in the moment. I was reveling in there delight because it brought me delight in my heart. It reminded me of how much I am loved by ME!
As you allow yourself to receive the gift you give to yourself by your generosity, open up to and allow yourself to receive the joy. Tune into your feelings. What is it you are feeling? Revel in the joy of the gift to you, Self Love!
Happy Holiday
Lorayne
I have been pondering the idea of time lately, it is ever moving and yet there are moments where it seems to stand still. Why is it that when you are younger it never seems to move fast enough and when you get older it never seems to slow down? These are the things I find myself pondering in the recesses of my mind.
I was thinking this morning about the “Lazy Days of Summer” you know, those days where time slows down and we all get to relax, sit back and enjoy life…. STOP EVERYTHING….what happened to those days? I really want to know.
I think what might have happen to those wonderful times, is that we forgot to relax, just sit back and watch as life ticked by. When did we get so wrapped up in being busy, going here and there, getting this and that? As I was pondering what happened to those wonderful times it occurred to me that maybe, just maybe I could bring them back into my life.
So, how do we unplug? How do we stop the constant thrust forward and just breathe? B-R-E-A-T-H-E! I have decided to experiment with this and allow that warmth of the sun to seep into my pores and feel what it is like to stop and relax, enjoy and experience the moments as time just moves by.
I am not sure how I got to the point of the ever moving, doing, accomplishing, task oriented, do…do..doing of life….Argh! How did we all get there? I think we have forgotten how important it is to enjoy our lives, the wonderful moments where nothing of any real significance is happening but that moment is the most important thing ever! If we can just sit with ourselves and BE. No TV, Radio, Computer, Car or Job….just that delicious moment…and the next …and the next moment.
I think maybe we have become addicted to the speed, the rush, the ever moving, changing excitement. I’ll bet that if you allowed yourself the moment to experiencve how each feel, the rush and the peace, you would at first want the rush..it is familiar, comfortably uncomfortable. But, if you can allow yourself the experience of the peaceful moment, allow yourself the time to let it seep into your very soul, you would not want to let it go. there is a profound rest in those moments that I long to return to.
I invite you to give yourself the gift of the moment, allow yourself to experience the magic!
Moment by moment, Lorayne
I just sent in my video for the ‘Your Own Show” on Oprah’s network, what an adventure and growth experience it was. You know me, I am all about growth opportunities, pushing myself beyond my comfort zone. I want to take every advantage the universe provides for my growth experience, I say “why waste the trip”!
So I purchased a Kodak Zi8 camera, got my tripod ready, sat down and I was off… Ok so there is not much memory in the camera and the card that came with it had to be mailed. So… I had to wait a day or so before I could film. I purchased a little Kodak desktop trip, not so great, broke right at the start. So I had my large tripod, it’s for a medium format camera, a little over sized but worked just great.
Card arrives, inserted in the camera and again I am ready to shoot. I shot in the bedroom, I shot in the office, I shot in my client room, in the living room, you name it I shot there (OK, I drew the line at the bathroom). it was all about lighting and the perfect background, after all this was Oprah and I was auditioning for my “OWN” show.
What I learned; I am not a producer or a director.. I gave up looking for video perfection and decided that I was enough, me just as I am…after all that is what they are going to get if I get on the show so might as well give it to them right out the gate.
If you had asked me a year ago to submit a video for a show, a reality show no less, I would have said you were nuts, I did not have the self confidence to do something like that and what if I actually got on, I would have to be on TV! I got a wonderful opportunity to see how far i have come and that the self work I have been doing has really paid off. The really amazing thing is that I have no attachment to however this turns out. Obviously I would not have sent in my video if I did not truly want to be on the show but I also am OK with what ever turn up. The most important thing I did was showed up and played the game, beyond that…it is gravy! I did not talk myself out of it, tell myself I was not good enough, let that little voice in my head sabotage my fun, That was the greatest gift. The realization that I can have fun in life, play the game but not get caught in the game along the way. What an amazing realization! I have finally moved out of the crab pot and have become an observer in my own life. What a cool thing….NOW THE REAL FUN BEGINS!
If you would like to see my audition check this out….. http://myown.oprah.com/audition/index.html?request=video_details&response_id=11888&promo_id=1
If you would like to learn how to become the observer in your own life.. I Can Help.
Lorayne Ham
Funny how as we go through our day we encounter obstacles to success around corners we did not even know existed. Has this happened to you? It happens to me when I least expect it. That is the way of it, if we expected it, it would not be getting in our way, we would be aware.
I am talking about those pesky little subconscious thoughts that creep in at the most inopportune times and sabotage us from moving forward head long into our lives and our success.
Recently I was preparing for a new class I am teaching, “Prosperity & Money”. It is about getting to the cause of what is in the way of peoples prosperity, their healthy relationship with money. This is an area that so many people are struggling with and I decided that I was going to provide a course that would assist people to finally get to the truth and find out where their money/prosperity programs and beliefs started. Since my job is to assist my clients in finding out the programs, beliefs and emotions that are getting in the way of their total health, wealth and happiness it did not seem like such a stretch to create this course. I was going along just fine until I was awakened by that little voice (the foreign saboteur) that kept saying, WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE? What do you think you are doing? STOP! What will people think. You are not qualified. Maybe none of you have had this voice in your head before and maybe you have and can relate.
This is the very moment when most people are stopped from moving forward. The voice gets the best of them and they believe it to be the truth, and it is for the moment. Once again it has won and we are put back in our place. How many times has this happened to you? Do you stop, give up settle for the familiar inertia? This is where most people resign themselves to never getting ahead. As you can see, I know this voice really well, as do you.
This is the critical moment, do I listen to the voice? Or, do I muster all of the courage I can and push forward? No one would blame me if I sunk back into the wall and continued the status-quo. After all everyone hears it and they all understand, Right?
Well…what should I do? I could kick myself in the butt and say don’t be an idiot, you have worked too hard and too long to build your reputation, you are respected, you have responsibility. Oops, what just happened? The voice is using another tactic! Just another way to sabotage me since the first tact did not seem to work. Are you starting to get the idea that maybe, just maybe, your perceived lack of success was never yours to begin with?
The foreign saboteur is so subtle, so sneaky, so insidious and it tries every possible way to keep us from moving in the direction of our spirit! So what do we do now?
Let me tell you what I did and do every moment of every day. I stop, take a deep breath and remember right in this moment, and this moment and this moment, I am doing the very best I know how to do. It may take me a few tries before I can conquer the voice but if I am diligent and remember that it is not me, IT IS NOT ME..,then and only then can I recognize I have won the battle, maybe not the war, but certainly the battle, at least for now. Next time I may let it get the best of me, I have to be OK with that, but the only way it wins is if I give up. I don’t know about you but I have fought too hard and too long and I am committed to my moving forward. I am committed to my success and the only person I measure my success to and with is myself. If I continue to move forward towards my chosen destiny then I will always win. I will always prevail.
So, what about you, are you finally going to realize the voice in your head that is keeping you from your success is not you? Are you finally going to start being kinder to yourself, gentler and more compassionate? I would recommend a good healthy dose of self-honoring, self-celebration and self-love. After all, you chose to be here, to experience all you could and that means success too. Life is certainly a process and I intend to enjoy the ride!
Here’s to our Success!
Lorayne Ham
In Lighten Wellness
www.inlightenwellness.com
This month I will be participating in my second Kalos course on April 16-18 in the Seattle area. The first time I was the student and now I am learning to assist and teach this wonderful healing system to others. You can find out more about Kalos and the upcoming course at www.inlightenwellness.com.
I have noticed that many times in my life I have stepped forward to teach what I was also in the process of learning. This may sound counter to what most people expect of their teachers, we want them to be perfect, to know everything there is to know about whatever subject we are teaching. There is nothing wrong with wanting your teacher to be proficient in the subject they are teaching, I want the same.
However, I have noticed that when the teacher is also engaged in learning there is something magical that occurs. When the teacher is flowing with the energy of the students and the subject they are in tune with the moment, they are open to newness and magic.
Have you ever taken a course from a teacher that was so bored with their own subject that they almost fell asleep along with the students? I have and I am here to tell you there was nothing magical in the words that were spoken or the subject being taught. I went in with great expectations of learning and left empty.
When the teacher is willing to also be the student of their class then they are open to new experiences, new insights and new possibilities. This is the kind of teaching and learning that I prefer and quite frankly, it is the way I teach all of the courses I teach. I want to learn from my students as they learn from me, there is a synergy that happens and I find the students learn more and with greater enthusiasm.
As I learn from my students my subject gains depth and heart, I am no longer teaching a subject but I am teaching an art, I am engaged in the exploration of both the information and the experience of teaching and learning at the same time.
Maybe it is in the minor imperfections of the teacher and in their willingness to step forward in teaching that great teachers are born.
If you are interested in classes and courses I teach or am assisting in as I continue to learn, visit my website at www.inlightenwellness.com or call me at 206-406-7158. I teach Reiki 1&2, Adv. and Mastery, Energetic Healing and soon will be teaching Kalos. It is both my joy and my pleasure to teach and learn with you.
In service,
Lorayne
