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I have been pondering the idea of time lately, it is ever moving and yet there are moments where it seems to stand still. Why is it that when you are younger it never seems to move fast enough and when you get older it never seems to slow down? These are the things I find myself pondering in the recesses of my mind.
I was thinking this morning about the “Lazy Days of Summer” you know, those days where time slows down and we all get to relax, sit back and enjoy life…. STOP EVERYTHING….what happened to those days? I really want to know.
I think what might have happen to those wonderful times, is that we forgot to relax, just sit back and watch as life ticked by. When did we get so wrapped up in being busy, going here and there, getting this and that? As I was pondering what happened to those wonderful times it occurred to me that maybe, just maybe I could bring them back into my life.
So, how do we unplug? How do we stop the constant thrust forward and just breathe? B-R-E-A-T-H-E! I have decided to experiment with this and allow that warmth of the sun to seep into my pores and feel what it is like to stop and relax, enjoy and experience the moments as time just moves by.
I am not sure how I got to the point of the ever moving, doing, accomplishing, task oriented, do…do..doing of life….Argh! How did we all get there? I think we have forgotten how important it is to enjoy our lives, the wonderful moments where nothing of any real significance is happening but that moment is the most important thing ever! If we can just sit with ourselves and BE. No TV, Radio, Computer, Car or Job….just that delicious moment…and the next …and the next moment.
I think maybe we have become addicted to the speed, the rush, the ever moving, changing excitement. I’ll bet that if you allowed yourself the moment to experiencve how each feel, the rush and the peace, you would at first want the rush..it is familiar, comfortably uncomfortable. But, if you can allow yourself the experience of the peaceful moment, allow yourself the time to let it seep into your very soul, you would not want to let it go. there is a profound rest in those moments that I long to return to.
I invite you to give yourself the gift of the moment, allow yourself to experience the magic!
Moment by moment, Lorayne
I just sent in my video for the ‘Your Own Show” on Oprah’s network, what an adventure and growth experience it was. You know me, I am all about growth opportunities, pushing myself beyond my comfort zone. I want to take every advantage the universe provides for my growth experience, I say “why waste the trip”!
So I purchased a Kodak Zi8 camera, got my tripod ready, sat down and I was off… Ok so there is not much memory in the camera and the card that came with it had to be mailed. So… I had to wait a day or so before I could film. I purchased a little Kodak desktop trip, not so great, broke right at the start. So I had my large tripod, it’s for a medium format camera, a little over sized but worked just great.
Card arrives, inserted in the camera and again I am ready to shoot. I shot in the bedroom, I shot in the office, I shot in my client room, in the living room, you name it I shot there (OK, I drew the line at the bathroom). it was all about lighting and the perfect background, after all this was Oprah and I was auditioning for my “OWN” show.
What I learned; I am not a producer or a director.. I gave up looking for video perfection and decided that I was enough, me just as I am…after all that is what they are going to get if I get on the show so might as well give it to them right out the gate.
If you had asked me a year ago to submit a video for a show, a reality show no less, I would have said you were nuts, I did not have the self confidence to do something like that and what if I actually got on, I would have to be on TV! I got a wonderful opportunity to see how far i have come and that the self work I have been doing has really paid off. The really amazing thing is that I have no attachment to however this turns out. Obviously I would not have sent in my video if I did not truly want to be on the show but I also am OK with what ever turn up. The most important thing I did was showed up and played the game, beyond that…it is gravy! I did not talk myself out of it, tell myself I was not good enough, let that little voice in my head sabotage my fun, That was the greatest gift. The realization that I can have fun in life, play the game but not get caught in the game along the way. What an amazing realization! I have finally moved out of the crab pot and have become an observer in my own life. What a cool thing….NOW THE REAL FUN BEGINS!
If you would like to see my audition check this out….. http://myown.oprah.com/audition/index.html?request=video_details&response_id=11888&promo_id=1
If you would like to learn how to become the observer in your own life.. I Can Help.
Lorayne Ham
I am often asked, “What is it you do?” I am always struck by that question. It should be simple, after all I talk about my work all of the time. I am a certified Kalos Health Facilitator and what that means is that I assist people in “getting to the cause” of dis-ease (lack of ease) in their Body/Mind. Sounds simple doesn’t it? Interestingly most people do not know what I mean. Interesting but not surprising. You see most people go to a healthcare provider and that provider looks at them as a statistic. They come in with a symptom and the provider looks at them and based on the majority of people that present with that symptom they treat them according to the majority. This is what we have become accustomed to so we do not see anything wrong with it. Well I do!
What if we went to our Health care facilitator and they said to us “I need to get an overall view of the current state of your body, I am going to do a non-invasive check up using muscle testing and trigger point testing, using your body’s meridian system to identify the deficiencies or weaknesses in your body”. Right away you know they are working with your body, you are not a statistic. Next they let you know that based on what you have presented and your original concern, your body is communicating to you that it is not in balance. It does not stop there, the facilitator then asks your body, again using muscle testing, to communicate what it’s first priority is to correct the imbalance. Sounds good so far, right? Are you getting the idea that this is different?
Based on the body’s priority’s in healing the facilitator follows and corrects each priority as it arises. In this way the client and their body are in control of what is needed for optimal health at all times. Our bodies are so intelligent and they know what they need to be well, they simply need a facilitator that can communicate what is needed. A facilitator that has the intent to “get to the cause” in the most efficient, effective manner possible.
I work with clients who come in with all sorts of concerns, issues and complaints. No issue, concern or complaint is too small or too large and none is more important than another. You see the issue, concern and complaint are connected to an individual who is looking for assistance, they each have an underlying cause and that means, as a facilitator, I want to assist my clients in getting to that cause and correcting it. I work to correct, shift, move and clear the imbalance in the Body/Mind. When the cause is identified I assist my client in immeasurable ways by moving them closer to balance and wellness.
Most of my clients have been to several providers before coming to see me. They have been treating the symptom and not the client as an individual. You see once the cause is addressed and dealt with the problem no longer exists. This is true healing!
As you can see my answer to the question “What do you do?” is not a simple or short one. My work is so complex, yet simple, and so far reaching that to casually say, “ I help people get well by getting to the cause” although good, does not speak to the profound healing that is possible with what I do.
There are a few Kalos Health Facilitators in the US and Canada but we need more. I see this as the way we need to be healing now and in the future and that means we need more facilitators. I am currently working on developing an educational center to train Kalos Health facilitators and lay people so that we can begin to heal on a greater level. The education center will be located in the greater Seattle area and I hope to provide continued training for those wanting to become certified.
Currently I am offering Kalos courses in Shoreline, WA and I hold a monthly group to support those who are currently taking courses. For information on upcoming courses and workshops please visit my website at www.inlightenwellness.com.
I also work with individuals looking to heal on all levels at my office in Shoreline, WA.
If you have any questions, suggestions or comments, I welcome your ideas.
In Lighten Wellness
Lorayne Ham
Funny how as we go through our day we encounter obstacles to success around corners we did not even know existed. Has this happened to you? It happens to me when I least expect it. That is the way of it, if we expected it, it would not be getting in our way, we would be aware.
I am talking about those pesky little subconscious thoughts that creep in at the most inopportune times and sabotage us from moving forward head long into our lives and our success.
Recently I was preparing for a new class I am teaching, “Prosperity & Money”. It is about getting to the cause of what is in the way of peoples prosperity, their healthy relationship with money. This is an area that so many people are struggling with and I decided that I was going to provide a course that would assist people to finally get to the truth and find out where their money/prosperity programs and beliefs started. Since my job is to assist my clients in finding out the programs, beliefs and emotions that are getting in the way of their total health, wealth and happiness it did not seem like such a stretch to create this course. I was going along just fine until I was awakened by that little voice (the foreign saboteur) that kept saying, WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE? What do you think you are doing? STOP! What will people think. You are not qualified. Maybe none of you have had this voice in your head before and maybe you have and can relate.
This is the very moment when most people are stopped from moving forward. The voice gets the best of them and they believe it to be the truth, and it is for the moment. Once again it has won and we are put back in our place. How many times has this happened to you? Do you stop, give up settle for the familiar inertia? This is where most people resign themselves to never getting ahead. As you can see, I know this voice really well, as do you.
This is the critical moment, do I listen to the voice? Or, do I muster all of the courage I can and push forward? No one would blame me if I sunk back into the wall and continued the status-quo. After all everyone hears it and they all understand, Right?
Well…what should I do? I could kick myself in the butt and say don’t be an idiot, you have worked too hard and too long to build your reputation, you are respected, you have responsibility. Oops, what just happened? The voice is using another tactic! Just another way to sabotage me since the first tact did not seem to work. Are you starting to get the idea that maybe, just maybe, your perceived lack of success was never yours to begin with?
The foreign saboteur is so subtle, so sneaky, so insidious and it tries every possible way to keep us from moving in the direction of our spirit! So what do we do now?
Let me tell you what I did and do every moment of every day. I stop, take a deep breath and remember right in this moment, and this moment and this moment, I am doing the very best I know how to do. It may take me a few tries before I can conquer the voice but if I am diligent and remember that it is not me, IT IS NOT ME..,then and only then can I recognize I have won the battle, maybe not the war, but certainly the battle, at least for now. Next time I may let it get the best of me, I have to be OK with that, but the only way it wins is if I give up. I don’t know about you but I have fought too hard and too long and I am committed to my moving forward. I am committed to my success and the only person I measure my success to and with is myself. If I continue to move forward towards my chosen destiny then I will always win. I will always prevail.
So, what about you, are you finally going to realize the voice in your head that is keeping you from your success is not you? Are you finally going to start being kinder to yourself, gentler and more compassionate? I would recommend a good healthy dose of self-honoring, self-celebration and self-love. After all, you chose to be here, to experience all you could and that means success too. Life is certainly a process and I intend to enjoy the ride!
Here’s to our Success!
Lorayne Ham
In Lighten Wellness
www.inlightenwellness.com
Happiness is a state of mind. We hear this all of the time. Well, what if you do not know what makes you happy or what is keeping you from your happiness? I am certain that if I knew what was making me unhappy that I would at least be curious and try to figure it out. Of course, everyone wants to be happy. Wouldn’t you? After all none of us wants to be unhappy. Those people that say it is a state of mind are either out of their minds or maybe, just maybe they know something that we don’t.
What if it were as simple as finding out the under lying belief system that is blocking us from knowing our own path to happiness. It is as if someone long ago said “You can only be this happy and no more” It is like a set point on happiness. What if you could change that “set point” and choose how and what level of happiness you were going to have.
I am big on choice and I know that there is a simple and easy way for you to be happy in this moment. There is a technique that helps you to discover the decision you made long ago that is getting in the way, that belief that is holding you back from living your life full of joy and happiness. A decision made in a fraction of a second, with limited knowledge, limited information and limited comprehension. A decision made when you were small and did not have the tools to comprehend the ramifications of your decision and how long it would be effecting your life.
The technique is called Kalos Health Facilitation. A Kalos Helath Facilitator can take you back to the time of the decision and help you to see what happened, who was involved and what you decided in the moment to be the truth. “The Truth Shall Set You FREE” is an accurate statement and one that I see confirmed over and over again in my practice. Clients are transformed and are living lives free from the limits of their past. Free to choose a new reality and live each day knowing they are capable of real Happiness in their lives.
Isn’t it time for you to discover your true happiness? When you are ready, I am here to help you to do just that.
Light
Lorayne Ham
What do I mean? I mean that your life, health, attitude and flow of your life are all about you. After all we are all the center of our own little universe and we can only really see from our own point of view. This gives us a unique perspective on what we really need to make us feel happy, safe and well. This is exactly the idea behind the Kalos Transformative process. With the assistance of a Kalos Health Facilitator you can get feedback from your body to know exactly what it needs, wants and desires right NOW! Haven’t we all wanted to have the operating manual to our bodies and know what to do when something goes wrong? With Kalos you can have the ability to troubleshoot and repair anything that has or will go wrong in your body.
Now, no two bodies are alike so each persons operating manual is a little different based on a lifetime of different experiences. Kalso individualizes your health and wellness care and give you the power and the education to assist your body in doing what it was designed to do, HEAL ITSELF!
Why it is that most other Health and Wellness options assume that your body is broken and will be hard to fix? It is like going to the auto mechanic and having them say “it is a lost cause and you might as well get rid of it or use duct tap to hold it together until it just falls apart”. I do not know about you but that is no solution to long-term maintenance. What I do know is that the body can repair itself no matter how far into disrepair it may be, even if it has been brought to the brink of no longer functioning. The Body is intelligent it does know what it needs and sometimes (possibly most of the time) it needs us to simply get out of it’s way!
Eighty percent of all disease has an emotional component. What this means is that taking a pill or cutting something out does not fix the underlying cause of the disease. Until the underlying cause is addressed your body will continue to be in disrepair.
That is where the Kalos Health Facilitator comes into play, they can assist your body’s communication with you, along with providing education, so that you know what your body needs to heal and repair itself. If that means doing a little emotional excavation, the Kalso Health Facilitator can assist with that too. They help you to understand what decisions were made that lead down the road to disrepair. What power it is to know that you can get wholistic wellness care and know, without a doubt, what is needed to get back to wellness and stay well forever. I Love that idea!
If you are like me and you want to know what your body needs to get and maintain health and wellness, I suggest you locate a Kalos Health Facilitator right away and start feeling empowered right NOW!
As always I am here to assist you with your total wellness care.
Lorayne Ham
in-lighten.net
inlightenwellness.com
Life is all about Change and just as the seasons change we change too.
Change is inevitable and if we fight it life is hard. When we move with it, in the flow of it life is easy.
Learning to flow with life is the challenge most of us humans have. If you watch nature most things just flow, no resistance and when there is resistance there is catastrophe! Earthquakes are an example of resistance in the natural world. We too often have life give us examples of our own catastrophic results of our resistance to change; Heart attacks, diabetes, cancer, depression all of these are our bodies way of saying “things are not alright with me!”.
So how do we avoid the catastrophes or repair the damage after a catastrophe? Well, it requires us to change what is not working. I know I can here you saying, “I do not even know what to change” or “It is uncomfortable”. Have you ever heard the saying “Anything worth having takes work?” It’s true, but I am here to tell you “YOU” are worth the work, discomfort and challenge.
Let’s break it down as to why change is so difficult; did you know that your Mind would rather be comfortable than change the status quo? That’s right, your mind is so powerful that it is getting in the way of you making the changes necessary for better health, more happiness and total wellness. As a matter of fact your mind is the thing that is controlling your every action, your Sub-conscious mind. It is kind of like having an entity that lives in your head at a control panel that decides everything that you are going to do, say or be. I don’t know about you but that thought is scary! In essence your sub-conscious, that part that lives beneath the surface that you are not consciously aware of has ultimate power over your every thought and action. Here is the other problem; your mind has been making decisions about everything that has ever happened to you from the moment you were born and possibly before that too. The limiting decisions are the ones that are getting in the way. It is like having filters that block you from even seeing the good that is all around you. Say you had an experience where you were on the school grounds and some bully came up and took your lunch away from you and you were really hungry! Your mind could have made a decision that said “My food will be taken away from me so I need to eat it fast”. The results would be that you would have difficulty letting food go and you would eat really fast which would make you eat more of it. Or, your mind could have made the decision that “I can’t get what I want or need”. Well, then you could have the experience of never feeling like you deserve to have anything money, a partner, the right job no matter how hard you try. Now neither of these scenarios would be conscious, it would be an underlying program that your mind keeps running so that it can feel in control. Here is the other thing about the mind, it would rather be right than happy. Wow, that’s a kicker.
What I am getting at here is that I know change is hard. But it is not because you are lazy or have no will power. It is because you have been looking in the wrong place to fix the problem. It is not about you beating you up because you can’t, it is about you honoring you in the process of the change and waking up to the truth of what is really going on!
Change is a Really Good Thing, it means we are flowing with life and not against it. just remember to love yourself along the way.
Change is inevitable. We all know it and yet most of us fear change. We fear walking into the unknown, the un-discovered and it is because we do not know if we will be safe or not. It all comes down to safety. We are so afraid of change that we would rather stay with the uncomfortable, the un-fulfilling, the un-satisfying than face change. I know people that stay in horribly abusive situation because they are afraid that what ever situation that follows will be worse than the one they are in. They become numb. This, to some degree or another, is how most people live their lives. Sad, I know, but fact. We would rather become numb to our existence than change it.
Even when we have someone telling us that we can have a better life if we only…Give up the job, leave the partner or move. We are so accustomed to our existence and numbness that we can not see beyond our current reality. So we are in fear about what might come next. The reason this happens is that it touches us in our very survival and when that happens we go into our fight or flight mechenism and we hunker down. We will fight anyone or anything that threatens our reality. We may not want to consciously stay in the bad marriage, partnership, job, town, whatever it is but at least we know what to expect.
So what happens when we finally get beyond the fear and do decide to make the change? We have mustered up our courage and we take that leap of faith and……. there we are. Things are always more interesting, scary, exhilarating. This is the point where we find out what we are made of. Many people get to this point, they have finally taken a step in the right direction and suddenly something comes along that triggers their fear and they jump back into the old pattern. Or,. something comes along and they feel fear but they still decide to continue on the new path. These are the few that dare to live grander, bigger and more adventurous lives. They have faced themselves and their fear and still, they moved forward.
Does this mean that they will never face fear again, No! They will probably face fear every day; it is just the way of things. What will be different is that they know that they will survive. This is the journey of life, we either grow and learn to face fear and change or we stand still. I for one choose to face my fears head on every day because that means that I am growing and really, what’s the point of living if we are not growing? I figure why waste the trip!
Learn to embrace change and take advantage of every opportunity to face yourself in truth. Move forward knowing that you have lived, really lived!
I invite you to change something everyday, you might just like it!
If you would like to move forward in your life and embrace change or would like to develop tools and skills to do that…I teach courses, classes and workshops to support you in you journey. Go to www.in-lighten.net
In Light, Lorayne
All this month I have been talking about living an empowered life. Well, what does that mean, really? Before I can answer that let’s look at what Power is, personal power, the power that is innately ours. I do not mean power-over. I mean that power that we hold within ourselves that defines us.
We have all had times or moments in our lives where we did not feel powerful, or that we had any power at all. In fact we have felt small and insignificant. How could we feel our power. Those times where we felt that we had no power were times when we gave our power to another. Not consciously of course, but all the same we gave it to them.
Let me explain; let’s say I have had an upbringing that modeled to me that men have all of the power and I am just a woman so I have no power. As a child I knew no other way to operate. I grew up and I am still playing out that same role because I am running on an old program. As an adult I see examples out in the world that show me that men do not have all of the power, consciously I know the old program is false. I make attempts to stand up in my power and things are going along pretty well until I am challenged. I am put in a position with a man who believes that woman do not have any right to power and all of the sudden my old programming is triggered, on the subconscious, and I hand this man all of my power and become subservient to his will. This would throw me in to rage at myself because on some level I know I handed my power over.
Do you see how this mechanism gets triggered? and then we get whiny and angry and bitchy because we feel powerless!
So, how do we break out of our own programming and start to take back our power to become empowered? We start to become aware of our actions when we are doing them. We take classes, courses and workshops that help move us out of our old programming. We rise up and say to ourselves NO-MORE! This is truly an inside job.
I have a course called “Shift Your Perspective NOW!” that helps you to start and recognize where you give your power away and helps you to identify your true power. Check out my website at www.in-lighten.net.
It is my goal to see all women, men and children Empowered, so that they can live rich and full lives free from all programming from their past.
Imagine a world where everyone is intentful of purpose and free to choose their thoughts without any baggage from the past. Image a world where we are all EMPOWERED!
Lorayne Ham, In Lighten – Healing People MIND, BODY and SPIRIT
Today on the radio show, 1150AM, KKNW 8-9AM 1st Monday of the month, I took callers for the first on the show. It was wonderful to hear from viewers who really want to embrace their independence of the outside influences in their lives.
I understand that it is not easy to shut the outside out, it is constantly in our faces screaming for our attention, it takes diligence to keep yourself on your track and not on everyone else’s.
What works for me is to;
Shut off the news or even TV all together.
Read books take inspire and uplift you.
If you have friends that are constantly trying to bring you down, maybe it is time to find new friends!
Let family members that do not believe your way have their thoughts and you keep yours.
Let family members know that you are no listening to the news or the doom and gloom and ask them to keep any negativity to themselves
Make choices that support you and uplift you. In every moment.
Be willing to make changes that are uncomfortable but in the long run are beneficial.
Start with this moment right NOW. Make a choice.
You are probably saying “easy for you” but I too had to stat somewhere, I have just been doing this longer. This is not easy work but it is the most important work you will ever do on your own behalf. How important do you think you are in your life, if not you then who? If you do not put you first in your life no one else will! Take a stand, make a choice, live in passion for YOU! You are worth the effort and your life is worth the effort, be willing to live a life of magic.
Be the role model for your children, your community, your country and the world. The more of usthat are willing to shift our perspectives and live lives of our own choosing, the more we gicve others permission to do the same.
Take the challenge and live your Truth!
Experiment and have fun.
