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Change is inevitable. We all know it and yet most of us fear change. We fear walking into the unknown, the un-discovered and it is because we do not know if we will be safe or not. It all comes down to safety. We are so afraid of change that we would rather stay with the uncomfortable, the un-fulfilling, the un-satisfying than face change. I know people that stay in horribly abusive situation because they are afraid that what ever situation that follows will be worse than the one they are in. They become numb. This, to some degree or another, is how most people live their lives. Sad, I know, but fact. We would rather become numb to our existence than change it.
Even when we have someone telling us that we can have a better life if we only…Give up the job, leave the partner or move. We are so accustomed to our existence and numbness that we can not see beyond our current reality. So we are in fear about what might come next. The reason this happens is that it touches us in our very survival and when that happens we go into our fight or flight mechenism and we hunker down. We will fight anyone or anything that threatens our reality. We may not want to consciously stay in the bad marriage, partnership, job, town, whatever it is but at least we know what to expect.
So what happens when we finally get beyond the fear and do decide to make the change? We have mustered up our courage and we take that leap of faith and……. there we are. Things are always more interesting, scary, exhilarating. This is the point where we find out what we are made of. Many people get to this point, they have finally taken a step in the right direction and suddenly something comes along that triggers their fear and they jump back into the old pattern. Or,. something comes along and they feel fear but they still decide to continue on the new path. These are the few that dare to live grander, bigger and more adventurous lives. They have faced themselves and their fear and still, they moved forward.
Does this mean that they will never face fear again, No! They will probably face fear every day; it is just the way of things. What will be different is that they know that they will survive. This is the journey of life, we either grow and learn to face fear and change or we stand still. I for one choose to face my fears head on every day because that means that I am growing and really, what’s the point of living if we are not growing? I figure why waste the trip!
Learn to embrace change and take advantage of every opportunity to face yourself in truth. Move forward knowing that you have lived, really lived!
I invite you to change something everyday, you might just like it!
If you would like to move forward in your life and embrace change or would like to develop tools and skills to do that…I teach courses, classes and workshops to support you in you journey. Go to www.in-lighten.net
In Light, Lorayne
All this month I have been talking about living an empowered life. Well, what does that mean, really? Before I can answer that let’s look at what Power is, personal power, the power that is innately ours. I do not mean power-over. I mean that power that we hold within ourselves that defines us.
We have all had times or moments in our lives where we did not feel powerful, or that we had any power at all. In fact we have felt small and insignificant. How could we feel our power. Those times where we felt that we had no power were times when we gave our power to another. Not consciously of course, but all the same we gave it to them.
Let me explain; let’s say I have had an upbringing that modeled to me that men have all of the power and I am just a woman so I have no power. As a child I knew no other way to operate. I grew up and I am still playing out that same role because I am running on an old program. As an adult I see examples out in the world that show me that men do not have all of the power, consciously I know the old program is false. I make attempts to stand up in my power and things are going along pretty well until I am challenged. I am put in a position with a man who believes that woman do not have any right to power and all of the sudden my old programming is triggered, on the subconscious, and I hand this man all of my power and become subservient to his will. This would throw me in to rage at myself because on some level I know I handed my power over.
Do you see how this mechanism gets triggered? and then we get whiny and angry and bitchy because we feel powerless!
So, how do we break out of our own programming and start to take back our power to become empowered? We start to become aware of our actions when we are doing them. We take classes, courses and workshops that help move us out of our old programming. We rise up and say to ourselves NO-MORE! This is truly an inside job.
I have a course called “Shift Your Perspective NOW!” that helps you to start and recognize where you give your power away and helps you to identify your true power. Check out my website at www.in-lighten.net.
It is my goal to see all women, men and children Empowered, so that they can live rich and full lives free from all programming from their past.
Imagine a world where everyone is intentful of purpose and free to choose their thoughts without any baggage from the past. Image a world where we are all EMPOWERED!
Lorayne Ham, In Lighten – Healing People MIND, BODY and SPIRIT
